Challenges of volunteering

Recently I decided to start volunteering again but it does have its challenges.  First, the place will have a group of staff and volunteers who have been there for longer and know each other, have a particular workflow, good chemistry and team communication.  I am effectively an outsider and an unknown quantity, especially if there is no formal induction or introduction to my colleagues.  Also I've learned with the benefit of hindsight that it's better to do only a few hours at a time, I did a full day stint a few days a week before and faced burnout, loneliness and boredom.  Also frustrating is how hard it is to relate to other staff and volunteers when they don't engage me in conversation, ask my name and small talk, or they do but then move on or just ask me superficial yes/no questions, not to mention sometimes one or two can be obnoxious in showing me how things are supposed to be done and somewhat show irritation with me.

But despite all that I still do it, for something to put on my CV, to leave the house, to challenge my limits and perhaps help out in some way.

  • And... to reply to my own post ,.....   Volunteering really doesn't do your self-esteem any harm! Joy

  • I started volunteering with Crisis a couple months ago and feel much the same as you. Lots of it may just be me internalising stuff, such as feeling as if I should be talking more, better with eye contact or more smiley but idk. I've informed them that I may be autistic but I still sense I'm being judged for my behaviour.

    It didn't help that the first 4 times I went there were completely new people each time, the constant change really affected me. Last week I turned up and the shop was shut lol nothing to do with me but =/

    I'm going to see about volunteering with an autism organisation next. Hoping things improve for you!

  • There are the staff to talk to depending on the place otherwise I keep out of trouble.

    I enjoy it for the most part.

  • Good for you for volunteering. I volunteer so know how difficult it was be.

    When I first started I kind of took a step back and let myself get used to the new place before I worried about getting to.know people. I knew that was always going to be the most challenging thing for me. Fortunately for me I do volunteer with some very understanding and welcoming people. 

    Can I ask if you have someone to speak to at your place of volunteering? To my knowledge they have a duty of care to all volunteers. 

    Do you enjoy the actual nature of your volunteering place? Apart from the other staff\ volunteers. 

  • For reference, several years ago I worked over a year in a Wales air ambulance charity shop, until the stress accumulated and verbal harassment from a nasty old guy pushed me to quit. 

    A few years after I worked a few months in a Barnardo's store, but the tasks were boring and I didn't click with the team so I dropped out and moved on. 

    Recently I tried starting again by volunteering at a community farm, but felt like a spare wheel and found myself sitting alone at lunch.

  • +1 from me for both of you!  That you would give your own time to help other's despite having some difficulties yourselves.  I've done a fair bit in the past and have enjoyed it very much.  Despite giving my time for free, I've always treated it like a paid job.

    As for the people, they were often a normal cross-section of the population.  Some very nice and friendly and some that see you as 'new meat'.  The latter I avoid if I can.  If they know the procedures and you don't, they may feel cleverer than you and patronise you.

    I used to work for a guinea pig sanctuary, fixing the outdoor runs etc, and keep them going for as long as possible before the charity had to buy new ones.

    Last year I saw a request from a lady for a private driver for appointments etc.  She can walk, but with some difficulty so we go out in a wheelchair.  I was looking for voluntary work at the time and said I would do it for free, but she insisted on £10 per hour.

    We got back from the 1st appt and I couldn't open the front door for a while.  She gave me a spare key which opend the door with some difficulty.  I could just see her popping out into the garden, the door shutting and her being locked out, so offfered to replace the lock.  Pick one up at a local store for £12 with 3 keys and too about 15 mins start to finish.

    The role has kind of morphed into a DIY role and I go round most weeks to do something or other.  She had a stupidly high heating bill last year and has a woodburner and i suggested we collect a mountain of wood for free if possible and get some 'stash' in.  She's had enough this year for the whole winter and a stash in the cellar and in the garden, probably enough for next year too.  I find it all so rewarding!

    Not sure I've addressed the issues of the OP, but thought I'd share some experience of my own Grin

  • I‘m volunteering at the Red Cross, mainly in the field of civil protection and also in our Youth organisation. I have been with my local Red Cross for about 3 years now and I still struggle with camaraderie. It feels as if I just can‘t get it right. For example, we offer first aid-service at events as a main source of income and that can often mean hours of waiting around. Those are the most difficult things for me to do since we‘re often in pairs and it is just so hard to engage with someone over the course of up to 10 hours (depending very much on what kind of event you‘re at). 
    I just wanted to let you know, that it will probably get easier, but honestly? I think, I for my part, will never be a true part of the group. It did help to take on additional responsibilities and to educate myself through various courses to gain confidence in my abilities. This way I can automatically relate to at least some comrades on a professional level.

    And by the way: Thanks for volunteering! Volunteers make a big difference to a community!