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Text msgs and emails

Purplemoon2008

Does anyone else write a msg or email to someone send it and then obsess wheather what you have written in it makes sense? I do this and then I'm fixated on going back to the msg over and over not being able to work it out or not as it just looks like words.Sorry if this sounds weird I'm just wondering if this is a typical autistic thing? 

  • No I just worry that it's not arrived at all and has fallen into the ether somewhere, I've had several do that. I often can't send texts on my new stupid phone, it keeps changing its mind about whether to accept a recipient.

  • in reply to LaurenC

    Thanks for your reply Lauren c. That's very interesting to read I just wish I could stop it it drives me  up the wall .

  • This happens to me as well. When I was working as a personal assistant for a firm I had to do a lot of writing and sending, and I would spend a lot of time reading through what I had written because it didn’t look right or sound right in my head. I think I used to annoy the others in the office as I would be proof checking but when I did I read it aloud trying to whisper but obviously I wasn’t whispering.

    I was the same at school in this way, did my bit of writing and homework and then worried obsessively in case it was wrong and didn’t look good.

    My way of making this a little less annoying was to write it out in first in Word and then check through it before sending. It helped a bit. I was able to get to a point where I could send things and not obsess check them after sending.

    I’ve always over analysed things and my own writing is one of the things I obsess and over analyse most.

  • in reply to Emmalephant

    Yep I've had that too emmalephant it's so frustrating 

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thanks for the reply Stuart yes I do that too regarding different ways it could be interpreted. It probably is an autistic thing.its ridiculous I know but it causes me so much anxiety 

  • I can very much relate to this, especially since I‘ve had people telling me that my written communication often comes off as passive aggressive.

  • I used to reread them and wonder while waiting for a response if there were other ways to interpret what I had written. I am old enough to have wondered the same about letters I had written.

    Of course if I got a response which was unexpected I would then analyse why the response was different. I applied this to post processing verbal communications too.

    It fades with time to a certain extent. I think this is because you get more confident as more things go as expected as you get more skilled.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Ah ok maybe I'll try that too thanks for the advice 

  • in reply to Purplemoon2008

    I use Google Notes to do a rough draft and go over it again and again. 

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Thanks for the reply . It drives me up the wall just wish it would stop!

  • It happened to me as well when writing a message, sending it and thinking, does it make a scene?