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Increasingly frustrated!

ImJustAGirl

Hey there, 

I’m new here, I was recently diagnosed (talking 2 weeks ago).

So, since being diagnosed, I’ve been getting increasingly frustrated with myself for not being able to understand or feel stupid because it’s like I’m missing the vital piece of information but everyone else knows it, like it was common knowledge.

How are you late diagnosed managing to cope? I just seem to be angry at myself for misunderstanding all the time & I’m always exhausted too, which is also really frustrating. I work full time & work with people directly too so I suppose that’s why I’m always exhausted but still it’s frustrating not being to function ‘normally’

thanks in advance 

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  • Hi and welcome to the community.

    When I was working, I found that a lot of non autistic people misunderstood things - in fact, colleagues told me that I explained things better than others. So it's not your fault if you misunderstand something and it's not necessarily due to autism - it might be that someone didn't explain  it well. If I wasn't sure I asked for clarification.

    Exhaustion is very common, and I found working full time very challenging. I reduced my hours to part time when I was in my mid fifties (just after I realised I was on the spectrum) and last year I retired. It's so great not having to deal with work any more, and I do sympathise with your situation, and understand how tired it makes you. Try making time to relax and do things you enjoy.

    Hopefully as you learn more about yourself you will be able to deal with things better. I hope this forum helps you.

  • in reply to Lotus

    Interesting, I am good at explaining stuff to other people too.

    I ask many questions, or check stuff to answer questions myself, to make sure I understand something fully. Then explaining it is straightforward and logical.

    Implicit or undocumented assumptions are the biggest cause of projects going wrong. So I get them all out of the way at the start.

    People used to think I did it a bit too much, but it has paid dividends, so no-one says anything any more.

    If you have a room full of people and you are unclear, you can be sure someone else is also unclear, but they are too scared to say anything, and/or the other people have not thought of what you have.

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  • in reply to Lotus

    Interesting, I am good at explaining stuff to other people too.

    I ask many questions, or check stuff to answer questions myself, to make sure I understand something fully. Then explaining it is straightforward and logical.

    Implicit or undocumented assumptions are the biggest cause of projects going wrong. So I get them all out of the way at the start.

    People used to think I did it a bit too much, but it has paid dividends, so no-one says anything any more.

    If you have a room full of people and you are unclear, you can be sure someone else is also unclear, but they are too scared to say anything, and/or the other people have not thought of what you have.

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