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Failed out of Uni—how to tolerate criticism.

maxlinger60

Hi all,

I did not, in fact, get that essay turned in on time. Frankly, I have not gotten much turned in. My depression is full blast and my anxiety is following suit. My family is pulling me out of university for a semester, and while I think this is the right decision, I can't help but feel a bit ashamed. I know I need time to gather myself, get my head back on my shoulders and get some money in my pocket so I can hopefully move out next fall, but it's still rough to hear, and even rougher to deal with the constant criticism and judgement I will receive from my family. I'm not the first in my family to fail a term, but my family is quite judgmental, and I'm terrified of what happens if I enjoy work more than school. What will they think? How to tolerate six months of living at home, without my friends, with only my uptight parents to comment on my every move. I know they are here to support, but I still feel lost. I dragged myself out of rock bottom multiple times these past few months, and I don't want any mental progress I have made to go right back down the shitter.

Any advice? I know what I'm going to do, but I don't know how to feel and could use some support.

Love,

Max

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  • Really sorry that things have come to a halt, but I’m more concerned that you are depressed, anxious and feeling ashamed over something that might feel huge to you (dropping out of uni for a semester), yet in the scheme of things, is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Of course you didn’t want this to happen, and you may well be feeling more depressed than usual because of it, but shameful it is not.  I’m not going to make a list of all the shameful things that people I know have done, but usually they are shameful enough to make media headlines, and it doesn’t sound like the hiccup in your university career is going to make the headlines.

    I haven’t any further words that may be of help, other than to let time heal and do what you want to do, be that work, uni or anything else. 

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  • Really sorry that things have come to a halt, but I’m more concerned that you are depressed, anxious and feeling ashamed over something that might feel huge to you (dropping out of uni for a semester), yet in the scheme of things, is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Of course you didn’t want this to happen, and you may well be feeling more depressed than usual because of it, but shameful it is not.  I’m not going to make a list of all the shameful things that people I know have done, but usually they are shameful enough to make media headlines, and it doesn’t sound like the hiccup in your university career is going to make the headlines.

    I haven’t any further words that may be of help, other than to let time heal and do what you want to do, be that work, uni or anything else. 

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