"You can't handle the TRUTH!": the fine art of lying

I have been told I lie a lot. I think it's a lie, but I'm not certain. It all gets complicated in my head, especially when momma used to say, "if you tell the truth from the start, you don't get into trouble" (ie. you recognised it is wrong and you show remorse".

Lying is just a tool to spare people's feelings.

"Does my bum look big in this dress?"

"Yes, because you're bum is big. But thats ok because I like big butts and I cannot lie...!"

This NEVER goes down well!

To paraphrase a Paloma Faith album title "Do you want the truth or something beautiful?" The truth is usually something terrible. We use phrases like "the cold hard truth" and "if truth be told..." but very few times do people actually want the truth.

Autism and being truthful kinda go hand in hand, but masking allows you to play fast and loose with it, simply because it's a neurotypical thing to do.

Has anyone had any situations where truth and lies have been blurred, and did you end you carrying the guilt but not know why?

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  • I've often been accused of lying when I've definately not been, I've been told the "truth" by several people and it's really hard to hold on to the fact that I've not lied, I'm the one telling the truth, but other peopple around me seem to be prefer the lies of others, maybe it makes them more comfortable? Having ASC means I'm always a sort of scapegoat for tensions within any group I'm involved with, people see that I don't react the way that NT's do and its easy to think the worst of me.

    Then they wonder why I don't like groups and am extremely wary of getting involved with others. Am I paranoid or have I learned from experience that I'm an all to handy scapegoat?

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  • I've often been accused of lying when I've definately not been, I've been told the "truth" by several people and it's really hard to hold on to the fact that I've not lied, I'm the one telling the truth, but other peopple around me seem to be prefer the lies of others, maybe it makes them more comfortable? Having ASC means I'm always a sort of scapegoat for tensions within any group I'm involved with, people see that I don't react the way that NT's do and its easy to think the worst of me.

    Then they wonder why I don't like groups and am extremely wary of getting involved with others. Am I paranoid or have I learned from experience that I'm an all to handy scapegoat?

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