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How do I become a man at 36

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Though my body has aged my mind and emotions have been stuck at 20 years behind.  Even my own parents still infantilise me in some ways and our relationship has only grown more sour.

I need to catch my mind up to my physical age of 36.  I need to navigate the skills of getting and keeping work, managing my finances, keeping a place to sleep and if I were worthy in the first place a partner (wouldn't necessarily have to be female) and friends for mutual support and survival.

I'm even getting rid of my old clothes, playstation, Lego models and other model kits and job searching at my own discretion hoping to find something to get my foot on the ladder.

I also thought about binning my old interests like computers and gaming, narrowing down my devices to the bare essentials and joining a gym to exercise as my new "special interest", besides putting more time into gardening and photography, joining adult courses for anything employable and learning how to look less autistic and more attractive.

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  • I'd be concerned about watching videos on masculinity posted by men, especially if you're looking for a female partner.

    So many men get drawn to these manosphere spaces and are told 'what women want' and 'how to be a man' when it couldn't be further from the facts. Most of these man coaches are only interested in impressing other men, and often give bad advice encouraging men to treat women as conquests, property and arm candy.

    I'd advise caution and if you really want to know what women's idea of healthy masculinity is then my best advice would be to ask women. Start with honesty, compassion, empathy, loyalty and a solid understanding of consent and respect. Thumbsup tone2

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