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Changing my life

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After another row with family earlier today, I realise I wasn't always grateful of their efforts, and the mentality I adopted was only upsetting and angering people.  So I decided to set aside my autistic identity and just be normal, commit to socially acceptable behaviour, go out more, be around people more and later get a menial job and start over from the bottom.  Even work on being nicer to people and earning their respect, trust and god willing their love.

And giving self help another try along with CBD to manage the pain.

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  • This is a very interesting post. I have been going through a similar train of thought lately. I don't believe that setting aside my autistic identity would be a good thing, it has helped explain so much about myself that I previously didn't understand and allowed me to be kinder to myself. However, I feel that I have allowed it to completely define me to the point where I give up too easily or don't attempt things I could actually do if I stuck at them. When something becomes very hard and challenging I have walked away with the mindset of "I'm autistic, I can't do that". It has almost morphed from an explanation to an excuse if that makes sense. 

    I am now trying to start from scratch, sticking at a job I hate rather than quitting while I attempt to retrain into a career I might actually enjoy. 
    I have tried to stop blaming society for my situation in life and, with prayer and consideration, began to think how I can best improve my own situation. 
    It's a long road and one I have only just begun but it feels good. 

    I hope you are able to find peace on your road. Be careful not to burn yourself out though, sometimes we can try to do too much too soon 

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  • This is a very interesting post. I have been going through a similar train of thought lately. I don't believe that setting aside my autistic identity would be a good thing, it has helped explain so much about myself that I previously didn't understand and allowed me to be kinder to myself. However, I feel that I have allowed it to completely define me to the point where I give up too easily or don't attempt things I could actually do if I stuck at them. When something becomes very hard and challenging I have walked away with the mindset of "I'm autistic, I can't do that". It has almost morphed from an explanation to an excuse if that makes sense. 

    I am now trying to start from scratch, sticking at a job I hate rather than quitting while I attempt to retrain into a career I might actually enjoy. 
    I have tried to stop blaming society for my situation in life and, with prayer and consideration, began to think how I can best improve my own situation. 
    It's a long road and one I have only just begun but it feels good. 

    I hope you are able to find peace on your road. Be careful not to burn yourself out though, sometimes we can try to do too much too soon 

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