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Letting go of being told I am not normal.

mrs.snooks

I've posted this in my other thread, so sorry if this is against the rules. But I woke up at 4.30am thinking that this was still hurting.

Yesterday, in response to coming out as Autistic, I was told "well, not everyone is normal"

I'm really trying to get my head around this, because of course being autistic, for the life of me, I don't know if they mean that:

1. It is okay to not be normal

2. It is not okay to be not normal

3. Being normal is on a spectrum

4. Being not normal makes me a lesser person.

So, please help me understand.

I'm going to ask the advice of a neurotypical colleague of what was meant by this response. Because it is hurting still.

I mean I know I am not normal. I know I am weird (a comment from Wednesday). But I have a lifetime of this trauma to try and cope with.

I don't know whether I should call it out, feel hurt, feel angry or feel like I am 'making a mountain out of a molehill'. (Do love a good metaphor Rolling eyes) I want to improve how we are viewed in the world, but maybe like my husband advised me: I should not come out as Autistic, because it will come at too great a personal cost.

Yours, feeling sad.

Mrs Snooks

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  • Ask them what's normal. So many people talk without thinking what their words actually mean. 

    There's no such thing as normal, unless they mean the beige, bland and boring types who try to dress, eat, drink, talk, think and live the same as everyone else they see as 'normal'.

    It sounds like you're your own person and that is a beautiful thing. Be you, be weird and quirky, do what you want to do. The rest are just jealous because they don't have the confidence to do it. It's cool to be different, but there really isn't any such thing as normal, and those who use that term to suppress change or difference are usually just scared of it.

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