Emotional connection

This will have been talked about many times but does everyone with ASD struggle with emotional connection? I find it really easy to disconnect emotionally and can be really cold with people and situations which have are emotional. I do have emotions and I do care about things but I can switch off emotionally and not consider the emotional needs of others without thinking anything bad about it, but feel bad about it when challenged. I have ASD and I'm married, my wife has told me she might be married but she is lonely because I'm not always emotionally supportive which makes me feel bad but I know I'll keep doing it and not realise I'm doing it. I've been emotionally disconnected since I was a young boy were from the age of 10 i refused to sit in the same room with my mum and let her physically connection with me because of triggers, so would isolate in my bedroom. The last time I touch my mum was when she died because I knew she couldn't touch me back, we didn't have information on ASD  in the 70's, 80's and 90's. Now I'm a 55 year old man diagnosed with ASD. Is emotional disconnection  common with ASD ?