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autistic adult child’s anger

katyann

we are at our wits end and need help and just don’t know what to do. We are a family of 4., Mum, Dad and grown up kids all living at home. Our son was diagnosed with HFA at 12. We have been through years of trying to understand him and trying to ignore the way he speaks to us all. He is so condescending, snappy and aggressive in his manner. We walk around on eggshells the majority of the time and family life is awful. We have tried talking to him but he gets defensive and then somehow manages to turn it around so that we feel we are the ones with the problem. It’s so hard to describe how hard it is living with him but it has got so bad now that his older siblings talking about moving out because they can’t stand it any more. is this constant miserable, aggressive tone in autism and how do you cope with it. I would really appreciate some help/advice, especially for our other grown up child .

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  • I feel for you. Now in my late 60’s I was an angry young man who was always looking for an argument and very difficult to live with. I used to think I was always right and that everyone around me was wrong. To be honest you need to kick him out the house for your own wellbeing and the rest of the family. That is very harsh, but you do say he is high functioning so he should be able to manage it. He may try to make you feel bad. In fact probably will. However, from what you say he can’t do sharing his space with others so he is possibly likely to do better without other people in the same space.

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  • I feel for you. Now in my late 60’s I was an angry young man who was always looking for an argument and very difficult to live with. I used to think I was always right and that everyone around me was wrong. To be honest you need to kick him out the house for your own wellbeing and the rest of the family. That is very harsh, but you do say he is high functioning so he should be able to manage it. He may try to make you feel bad. In fact probably will. However, from what you say he can’t do sharing his space with others so he is possibly likely to do better without other people in the same space.

    keep posting

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