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Anxiety at work

Wib

I started a new job in January and I’m loving it. It’s a job I’m genuinely passionate about and adore.

I got a message from a manager this morning that basically asked me if I would be free for a catchup about my 3 month probation tomorrow before my shift.

For context, I once had a job where they scheduled a probation meeting and then let me go so these sort of meetings or any meetings with managers make me very anxious.

Ever since I got this message I have been stuck in an anxiety spiral. I have convinced myself I’m being let go and I’m reading way too much into the message. For example, I thought my probation was 6 months so I have took from the 3 month mention that they are failing me after only 3 months.

I have spoken to my partner and he has reminded me of how much positive feedback I have been getting at my job and that it’s most likely a standard catchup to ensure I’m settling in alright and to see if I have any questions or concerns. 

My partner also suggested that in my meeting I should request a reasonable accommodation about getting a summary of what meetings will be about beforehand as I do struggle with meetings being scheduled where I don’t know what the meeting entails. Because the contents are unknown, I tend to create scenarios in my head which causes issues.

I have a therapy session tomorrow so I’m going to ask my therapist for some advice, but I just wanted to have a rant and to see if anyone could relate.

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  • Update guys. The meeting was absolutely fine. Turns out halfway through your probation they do a review meeting just up check in with employees and to give any  feedback. All my feedback was positive and I was told that I’ll have another one of these meetings in July where they will let me know if I passed my probationary period. My manager said that he expects I’ll pass this with no issues and to keep up the good work.

    Massive sigh of relief Relieved

  • in reply to Wib

    Good news !

    You're not alone - I pretty much worry about everything and often jump to negative thoughts, without reality checking.

    I did suspect O & U was right in their earlier reply, it was just a formality to let you know and to check in with you, how you thought you were doing.  

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  • in reply to Wib

    Good news !

    You're not alone - I pretty much worry about everything and often jump to negative thoughts, without reality checking.

    I did suspect O & U was right in their earlier reply, it was just a formality to let you know and to check in with you, how you thought you were doing.  

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