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Fear of males anxiety sky high

Wolf

After what happened to me i now have a fear of males.

people think i will get over it i won't 

Now i panic  male support workers are a no go  male nurses are a no go same with police etc 

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  • I went for therapy about ten years ago and stated I'd rather not have a male therapist.  

    I was made to feel that I had to explain - in detail - why, which I found to be embarrassing & intrusive.

    I was then told that because I'd expressed a preference it was likely I'd have to wait longer for therapy.

    When I'd reached the top of the queue, I was contacted & told that there was no female therapist offering that type of therapy available, so I could see a male or nothing. 

    I was given the option of making a complaint, which I did - and this came to nothing.


    I am not stupid.  I do realise that I can't judge every single male by the sins of (some), but there are more than one reasons why I wanted a female therapist - and it wasn't just about past trauma. 

    Of course I do accept that there will be some that will prefer not to have contact with females for good reasons too - it is just a pity that their wishes can't seem to be taken seriously & respected by the services that so many of us rely on & are regularly referred to. 

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  • I went for therapy about ten years ago and stated I'd rather not have a male therapist.  

    I was made to feel that I had to explain - in detail - why, which I found to be embarrassing & intrusive.

    I was then told that because I'd expressed a preference it was likely I'd have to wait longer for therapy.

    When I'd reached the top of the queue, I was contacted & told that there was no female therapist offering that type of therapy available, so I could see a male or nothing. 

    I was given the option of making a complaint, which I did - and this came to nothing.


    I am not stupid.  I do realise that I can't judge every single male by the sins of (some), but there are more than one reasons why I wanted a female therapist - and it wasn't just about past trauma. 

    Of course I do accept that there will be some that will prefer not to have contact with females for good reasons too - it is just a pity that their wishes can't seem to be taken seriously & respected by the services that so many of us rely on & are regularly referred to. 

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