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Autism and anger meltdowns

Anonymous234

I have recently been diagnosed as autistic. I am really struggling to find ways to manage and control my extreme emotions, when I am having a meltdown. I have Alexithymia which makes it really difficult for me to recognise my emotions and control them as easily. Sometimes it can come in the form of frustration or anger, especially if I'm feeling overwhelmed or not sure how to express my emotions in a rational way.

I feel a lot of shame to be autistic as well because it has impacted on my social relationships and the inability to form friendships, build a social life etc. I also feel like I can't really help how I am.

Can anyone please suggest any helpful tips or advice for me? Or share any of your experience maybe, and how you dealt with them? I really do not want to go down the medication route. I wonder if there's any other apps, as Calm did not work for me. Therapy is very limited in my area.

I am hoping someone has some wisdom. Does anyone else share similar experiences to me, so I feel less alone in the world. Thank you for reading. 

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  • in reply to Nexus11

    As said, it might help if you can outline specific situations that cause particular frustration. 

  • in reply to Anonymous234

    I'm afraid I don't have much, but you can maybe help yourself by not using computers or tablets that don't have much memory or are getting obselete, avoiding laggy times. That is what drive me up the wall before. But getting a better PC would have been difficult financially, and that was the real issue really at that time.... . I just don't use computers that much any more! Most smartphones, even midrange phones, are large enough and powerful enough to get beyond that! That has helped a lot with my moments of computer rage!

    That helps less with knowing how to use certain kinds of software, such as Photoshop or Gimp, alas....do you have very acquaintances who could help with that, or with other software knowledge issues, or lack of it? 

    Google can save your passwords for you, or keep a paper notebook where you can record any new passwords or manœuvres. And ask the bank to help you if you do have a phone or small computer, if the steps are too complicated to remember. Now banks let you see your pin number on your phone app, but in that case you will need to guard your phone like a fortress from thieves and hackers. 

    Are there specific situations that cause the difficulties you would like to share? Someone else here might be able to chip in. 

    Sometimes, if a software like VLC is playing up, there will be forums that might have an answer. Unfortunately with a lot of social media, if you have an issue, there is no one to help. Just lousy help menues that get you nowhere. And as profit is the bottom line, and these things are free, things are not likely to change any time soon.

  • in reply to Nexus11

       do you suggest any coping strategies or techniques that I could to try to control my meltdowns plz? Or share your experiences maybe, if you're comfortable?