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So Tired

LS

I'm a 44 year old autistic woman and I'm struggling more then ever at the moment.  I'm so angry with myself that at my age I cannot hold a conversation.  I have a job and went out for lunch the other day with 5 colleagues who I have met a few times, conversation was flowing between them and I just sat there with nothing to say.  I could tell they thought I should be contributing and now I'm just angry at myself for being this way.

Sorry for the rant, I just can't cope.

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  • I want to say you're not alone... as that's absolutely me! I'm in my early 50s and have struggled all my life with holding group conversations with work colleagues outside of the workplace (in fact, any group conversation in any environment!). I struggle to keep up with the pace of conversation and feel like I have very little to add. I do try to contribute, but it takes a real effort and my mind races to try and find something to say... and by the time I have (which isn't guaranteed!) often the conversation has already moved on! So, inevitably I end up looking awkward and going quiet. I then feel really self conscious as I think the slightly quirky, happy and chatty person they know from around the workplace has become an alien. It is utterly exhausting. More than that, I then feel really embarrassed and disappointed in myself (again!) - I hear you!

  • in reply to MikeByTheSea

    What you describe is exactly the same for me. Unfortunately I would keep going back for more in the past but now realise it would be better to keep it to a minimum. I get told I’m always 5 minutes behind on the topic of conversation, this is because I drift off trying to think of something to add. It’s exhausting. 

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  • in reply to MikeByTheSea

    What you describe is exactly the same for me. Unfortunately I would keep going back for more in the past but now realise it would be better to keep it to a minimum. I get told I’m always 5 minutes behind on the topic of conversation, this is because I drift off trying to think of something to add. It’s exhausting. 

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