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She promised to write me about it but didn't

hypercolius

So last week my girlfriend surprised me by saying she wanted to book a trip with me. Said she'd look it up that evening. 

Then, she vanished for the weekend. She did tell me beforehand, but it was sudden. 

She came back on Monday. Said she wanted to bake me a cake for my birthday (this week) and called me today to discuss my project. 

I asked her about plans on Tuesday 

She said she'd do it that evening, said she'll set a reminder. 

I told her we could do it when she came over. 

She said she'd still do it that evening. 

She was sweet the whole day, but I did message her in the evening. After promising to make me my favourite snack for my birthday, I asked if we should leave that for the trip. 

She didn't respond. 

And didn't write me about anything. 

I'm really upset, and have no clue what this means. Yes, I'm autistic. 

  • I am sorry to hear that you are really upset by recent events / apparent changes of plan.

    It sounds as though there may possibly be some pieces of information as yet to be discovered and considered.

    However, I can easily think of lots of potential reasons why your girlfriend's best made plans and heartfelt intentions may have needed to change at the last minute (maybe, through no fault of their own).

    Speaking as a person who always used to make Birthday Cakes for my friends and relatives; I don't tend to offer to do so these days - as it can be exhausting and upsetting if a design / recipe doesn't quite turn out how the baker might have wished.

    Additionally, in years past, people generally used to be just super-appreciative of your having made the baking organisation, effort and expense in support of the other person's celebration event. 

    More recently, I have observed the critical-culture fostered by the less attractive corners of social media habits ...mean that sometimes now people think it is socially acceptable to act like they are some sort of an unofficial Judge from a Bake Off judged competition programme and make inconsiderate comments about baked goods carefully homemade by people and kindly brought to share with others.

    I do hope that, (as a person), your girlfriend is OK.

  • That sucks.  Getting messed about like that by women is why I never bothered among other things.  I'd rather stay single.

  • Yeh I don't really like people. In my experience it's all about them and what they want and need not about what others might possibly need. That's why I don't have a girlfriend I guess. Because it so happens that all the females I met were only interested in themselves and what they perceived that they want or need. It's all take take take and no give back. So until I find a female that gives back and doesn't just take then I will remain happily single. I'm sure there are nice women out there I just haven't met them yet haha.