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Running away from socials

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I seem to have an issue with social groups, in that I always feel the need to join them when I'm not in one, and then to escape or run away and cut myself off when I've been in them a short time, or even a little longer.

I think the trigger is when I feel like I'm too much, I feel like I talk too much and am too over friendly initially, or I feel like I'm not as accepted as other members are. I know this takes time but I always feel rejected, even when the rest of the group probably haven't even noticed a change.

I've found a nice group on my online game and they're quite chatty at times, but again I have the overwhelming urge to quit and I don't quite know why. Maybe I'm a bit socially lonely, which would make sense I guess. I don't go out much and spend most time with my partner. Face to face interaction is too difficult so all my friendships are online or text.

It feels like a cycle and I need to talk to my therapist about it to get to the bottom of why, but I just wondered if anyone else experiences this?

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  • I don't run away from social groups, I just don't join them in the first place. I don't do games and stuff like that or things like fb, there are a few local groups, but they always start things at the wrong time for me.

    What is it you think these groups can add to your life?

    Do you leave when you don't get it?

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I don’t do Fb or any of those social things (apart from Nas). Apart from not seeing the point it would make me feel very anxious and also struggling with technology in general. I do get a lot of flack for not being part of social media but it isn’t for me and I already please others too much without all that side encroaching into what little time I have to do the things that interest me. 

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I don’t do Fb or any of those social things (apart from Nas). Apart from not seeing the point it would make me feel very anxious and also struggling with technology in general. I do get a lot of flack for not being part of social media but it isn’t for me and I already please others too much without all that side encroaching into what little time I have to do the things that interest me. 

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