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‘Let it go’ how????

sapphic princess

I have a really strong sense of justice and often struggle to see things in other ways. If I think I’m right about something there’s not much that can change my mind, but I am able to admit when I am wrong (reluctantly). 

I get told to ‘let it go’ a lot, especially on political and controversial topics. Something I’m really passionate about is animal rights and cruelty. I really struggle to let things go in a conversation when not only do I know I’m right, there’s actual evidence and facts to support that it is true. This keeps happening when I’m talking to my family. As it’s something I’m passionate about when it comes up in a conversation I try to educate them and it turns into an argument because I can’t let it go and can’t understand how they can’t see these facts and evidence as true and real? 

I then constantly think about it and get frustrated all over again. I hate it. Once someone has done or said something I don’t agree with it’s all I see in them. I really hate it. 

I feel like I’ve rambled a lot but I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to ‘let things go’ if that’s even possible for autistics 

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  • Ultimatly a lot of arguments come down to really fundamental value judgments. Anmal rights is a perfect example of this. It tends to come down to whether or not you belive animals have a 'soul' or what ever other quality you belive diferentiates humans from say a very clever computer. Is it the ability to feel pain? Depending on how you define pain plents feel pain. You can come up with multipul defintions and theories to explain what makes humans special and depending on your belifes here animals might be a valuble as a squishy organic toster or almost as valuble as a human being.

    Unless you can aproch it very ceribraly without taking offence it's best not to get too caught up in the argument.

  • in reply to Peter

    I agree with you. I really try not to get caught up or even start the conversation/argument in the first place, but sometimes I get so frustrated and can’t stop myself 

  • in reply to sapphic princess

    well the alternative if you can't keep quiet is to try and develop that really ceribral aproch. Think less heated argument and more debate club. In fact I think a lot of autistic peope would benifit from joining a debate club ... actually almost everyone would. It should probably be compulsory in schools or something, formal debating.

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  • in reply to sapphic princess

    well the alternative if you can't keep quiet is to try and develop that really ceribral aproch. Think less heated argument and more debate club. In fact I think a lot of autistic peope would benifit from joining a debate club ... actually almost everyone would. It should probably be compulsory in schools or something, formal debating.

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