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‘Let it go’ how????

Ems

I have a really strong sense of justice and often struggle to see things in other ways. If I think I’m right about something there’s not much that can change my mind, but I am able to admit when I am wrong (reluctantly). 

I get told to ‘let it go’ a lot, especially on political and controversial topics. Something I’m really passionate about is animal rights and cruelty. I really struggle to let things go in a conversation when not only do I know I’m right, there’s actual evidence and facts to support that it is true. This keeps happening when I’m talking to my family. As it’s something I’m passionate about when it comes up in a conversation I try to educate them and it turns into an argument because I can’t let it go and can’t understand how they can’t see these facts and evidence as true and real? 

I then constantly think about it and get frustrated all over again. I hate it. Once someone has done or said something I don’t agree with it’s all I see in them. I really hate it. 

I feel like I’ve rambled a lot but I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to ‘let things go’ if that’s even possible for autistics 

Parents

  • I am very much the same, as of when someone (or rather somebody!) proposes something which I think to be either stupid, idiotic or merely ill-informed I will (really quite unintentionally) lecture them on as to how wrong they are for a really very long time indeed - to the point by which it becomes very annoying and (really quite often) upsetting for the other person, and then afterward engage in an unpleasant verbal-based spar. I am completely unaware that I do this, and only know that I do so as of the other person becoming (to put it in the mildest of manners) not very happy, and angrily shouting at me - so that I will stop! And, even after the initial conversation has subsided, I cannot seem to "drop it" (which I think to be a really very good think actually, because really quite often the such topics of conflict are left both unresolved and unsolved) and will often continue speaking, much to my own detrement - and ultimate peril! What I often do to deal with this is to wear a T-shirt which simply states: "I'm not arguing! I'm just explaining as to why I'm right - and as to why you're wrong!" ("And I'm, of course, perfectly righteous because I own a sentient jar of oxidised maramalade - which ultimately makes me superior.") In all seriousness, I usually try to distract myself from the such topic, and really quite decreetly, a later stage, perhaps when the such person is asleep, restate my viewpoint so that I can subliminally message them into agreeing with me! And really very luckily I so happen to be right. :-)

  • in reply to Rather_Quite_Rexquisite

    I’m glad I’m not the only one! I find it so hard to let go of the argument afterwards especially when it never seems like anything is resolved 

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