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‘Let it go’ how????

Ems

I have a really strong sense of justice and often struggle to see things in other ways. If I think I’m right about something there’s not much that can change my mind, but I am able to admit when I am wrong (reluctantly). 

I get told to ‘let it go’ a lot, especially on political and controversial topics. Something I’m really passionate about is animal rights and cruelty. I really struggle to let things go in a conversation when not only do I know I’m right, there’s actual evidence and facts to support that it is true. This keeps happening when I’m talking to my family. As it’s something I’m passionate about when it comes up in a conversation I try to educate them and it turns into an argument because I can’t let it go and can’t understand how they can’t see these facts and evidence as true and real? 

I then constantly think about it and get frustrated all over again. I hate it. Once someone has done or said something I don’t agree with it’s all I see in them. I really hate it. 

I feel like I’ve rambled a lot but I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to ‘let things go’ if that’s even possible for autistics 

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  • In my experience most people do not change their minds about things when you try to ‘persaude them’ and/or argue about them. In case I think it can sometimes make people stick to their own view even more stubbornly when you keep pushing them to adopt your own point of view. All that happens is that people dig in further to their ‘side’ - and it causes lots of tension and it’s often exhausting and fruitless. 
    I think you could ask yourself: is this good for me? Does doing this actually help anyone or anything? And is it actually causing me harm in terms of stress and the energy you’re expending on it. Be honest with yourself: is this a helpful or unhelpful thing that you are doing? Does it make you feel better or worse? And is it achieving anything? It might be that when you are really think about this deeply you’ll come to a conclusion about what the best course of action is. 

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  • In my experience most people do not change their minds about things when you try to ‘persaude them’ and/or argue about them. In case I think it can sometimes make people stick to their own view even more stubbornly when you keep pushing them to adopt your own point of view. All that happens is that people dig in further to their ‘side’ - and it causes lots of tension and it’s often exhausting and fruitless. 
    I think you could ask yourself: is this good for me? Does doing this actually help anyone or anything? And is it actually causing me harm in terms of stress and the energy you’re expending on it. Be honest with yourself: is this a helpful or unhelpful thing that you are doing? Does it make you feel better or worse? And is it achieving anything? It might be that when you are really think about this deeply you’ll come to a conclusion about what the best course of action is. 

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