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How do I help a work colleague - if I even can?

mrs.snooks

Hi. The first thing to say is ... I am not 'out' as autistic, at work.

A colleague at work has just had his job replaced by AI and is now on a 1 month trial in a new role. He is also not 'out'. But everyone can see that he is autistic. (They probably think the same thing about me, but may still think I am just rude.) He also does not know that I am also autistic.

He has 1 month to show that he can manage this new role and I fear that the odds are stacked against him. The organisation is not really very tolerant.

He is like me. And shows all the problems of executive function issues. He had his first day of learning the new job yesterday and I could see him struggling.

So my question is, how can I help him keep his job. Would really appreciate your advice. And if it is you who I am talking about, reach out to me. I'm hidden, but here.

Mrs Snooks

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  • Hi. Just an update. Today I sent out my CV to two local alternates of NHS employers that are local. I

    need to check in with my line manager, but it very much looks like my 'apprentice' is going to be 'let go'. The office is poisonous against him and I'm finding the teams behaviour more and more toxic. I am becoming more and more aware that I just don't feel comfortable being in the environment.

    My new nickname at home is Pollyanna. Becuase I am trying to fix an impossible situation. And I really identify with a scene in 'The Penguin Lessons' which I watched recently. It involves the main character and the juncta henceman. For those of you who have seen the film, I hope that makes sense. For those of you who have not seen it, I won't spoil it just incase you are still going to go.

    I feel really helpless and of course feel that it is all deeply unfair how my colleague is being treated. Because he is not 'out', I can not even advice him to use legislation to support his case.

    It is a sad situation, that I have to start again. But I am in the lucky situation that I don't need to work in order to live and eat.

    And advice in my case would be sincerely welcomed.

    Thanks

    Mrs Snooks

  • in reply to mrs.snooks

    I’m sorry that you feel helpless regarding your ‘apprentice’. It sounds like you have a strong sense of justice and of what is right and wrong, and that is admirable, but it seems that there is not much more that you can do at the moment.

    You might have to try to become detached from what can’t be changed on your part. That is easy to say, but you are already aware that you are ‘helpless’, so maybe keep reminding yourself that you can’t do anything at the moment. Detachment is key, yet I understand it isn’t easy.

    I hope you find yourself in a non toxic environment soon, so good luck with the search.

    I like the Pollyanna analogy!

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  • in reply to mrs.snooks

    I’m sorry that you feel helpless regarding your ‘apprentice’. It sounds like you have a strong sense of justice and of what is right and wrong, and that is admirable, but it seems that there is not much more that you can do at the moment.

    You might have to try to become detached from what can’t be changed on your part. That is easy to say, but you are already aware that you are ‘helpless’, so maybe keep reminding yourself that you can’t do anything at the moment. Detachment is key, yet I understand it isn’t easy.

    I hope you find yourself in a non toxic environment soon, so good luck with the search.

    I like the Pollyanna analogy!

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