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I'm in my mid 40s female. I've always felt that there was something different about me. I'm very shy and quiet, struggle with listening to instructions and tend to make mistakes. I also get bad anxiety. I've just been through a disciplinary process at work (I wasn't fired thankfully I got a warning), about an oversight I did regarding privacy and after talking things through with my rep he asked me if I ever thought I have autism. It got me thinking about some of my traits and behaviour, and some of the things I did at school. I used to bring a pair of pyjamas in so I could touch/feel them throughout the day. It gave me comfort, and I still do this when I go to bed, I like the feel of the covers so I stroke them until I go to sleep. I also had selective mutism and didn’t want to speak to the teachers. I have a twin too who is similar. My rep said women tend to mask which is why they struggle to get a diagnosis. 

Has anyone else had a lightbulb moment where someone they know or trust has mentioned they might have autism? I'm going to look into getting an assessment.

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  • My sister used to have a pieces of cloth she liked the feel of and rubbed against her face from small into her 20's.

    It's strange how you can be blind to the possibility that you may be autistic, even when you feel different and do different things, you don't think of it. If someone suggests it you think, no not me.

    But then if someone seriously suggests it, after the shock and doing a test or two, following some possibly obsessive research as it is your new special interest, you realise it seems to explain a lot of things that you could never quite understand before.

    I'm pleased you kept your job.

    I have read masking is more common in females which seems to be why they are diagnosed later and in lower numbers. There is a greater awareness now it appears, but whether you will encounter this I don't know.

    You could try the masking test (25 question Cat Q Embrace Autism | The ultimate autism resource), although I found it one of the hardest to do. As an adult it you need to remember what you did when growing up, 20, 30. 40 years previously. Some becomes subconscious so you don't know you are even doing it. The more you think about it the more unsure you become of the answer.

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  • My sister used to have a pieces of cloth she liked the feel of and rubbed against her face from small into her 20's.

    It's strange how you can be blind to the possibility that you may be autistic, even when you feel different and do different things, you don't think of it. If someone suggests it you think, no not me.

    But then if someone seriously suggests it, after the shock and doing a test or two, following some possibly obsessive research as it is your new special interest, you realise it seems to explain a lot of things that you could never quite understand before.

    I'm pleased you kept your job.

    I have read masking is more common in females which seems to be why they are diagnosed later and in lower numbers. There is a greater awareness now it appears, but whether you will encounter this I don't know.

    You could try the masking test (25 question Cat Q Embrace Autism | The ultimate autism resource), although I found it one of the hardest to do. As an adult it you need to remember what you did when growing up, 20, 30. 40 years previously. Some becomes subconscious so you don't know you are even doing it. The more you think about it the more unsure you become of the answer.

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