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Feel like such a failure

Jax

I feel like such a failure and I hate myself. I still live at home with my parents, I don't work but I have tried to work before, but it affects my mental health and last time resulted in me being detained under section 2 of the mental health act. My brothers all work, both have moved out now and live with their girlfriends and I'm still at home. I'm 28 now and I feel like since I left school my life hasn't progressed whatsoever, I spend all day with my mum, my dad is out working and I feel so guilty and ashamed that I don't work either.

My days consist of helping in the garden, playing with toys and watching Disney movies and listening to music. I worry what will happen when anything happens to my parents, I've heard them in the past talking about me ending up in a home. That idea frightens me so much. I want to live independently in my own home, and to be with someone, and working.

As I said. I'm a failure. I hate myself and everything I am.

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  • I've accepted I'll never be able to move out of my parents. I can't maintain a full time job or a relationship so affording a mortgage somewhere nice alone will never happen. I've learned to embrace and somewhat own who I am. Focus on fun things like my hobbies and interests. Have fun and make yourself happy. Don't compare yourself to others or what they consider success. Many people who do have a ''normal'' life and unhappy and just plodding along. Or living a life not suited to them just because they feel that's what everyone has to do. 

    Though I am worried as I get older what will become of me when my parents die. I do work part time and make money various ways but not a full time wage. Not sure if it will be enough to sustain myself without my parents help. 

    Like you my time is mostly spent with my toys and movies and growing food in the garden.

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  • I've accepted I'll never be able to move out of my parents. I can't maintain a full time job or a relationship so affording a mortgage somewhere nice alone will never happen. I've learned to embrace and somewhat own who I am. Focus on fun things like my hobbies and interests. Have fun and make yourself happy. Don't compare yourself to others or what they consider success. Many people who do have a ''normal'' life and unhappy and just plodding along. Or living a life not suited to them just because they feel that's what everyone has to do. 

    Though I am worried as I get older what will become of me when my parents die. I do work part time and make money various ways but not a full time wage. Not sure if it will be enough to sustain myself without my parents help. 

    Like you my time is mostly spent with my toys and movies and growing food in the garden.

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