Feel like such a failure

I feel like such a failure and I hate myself. I still live at home with my parents, I don't work but I have tried to work before, but it affects my mental health and last time resulted in me being detained under section 2 of the mental health act. My brothers all work, both have moved out now and live with their girlfriends and I'm still at home. I'm 28 now and I feel like since I left school my life hasn't progressed whatsoever, I spend all day with my mum, my dad is out working and I feel so guilty and ashamed that I don't work either.

My days consist of helping in the garden, playing with toys and watching Disney movies and listening to music. I worry what will happen when anything happens to my parents, I've heard them in the past talking about me ending up in a home. That idea frightens me so much. I want to live independently in my own home, and to be with someone, and working.

As I said. I'm a failure. I hate myself and everything I am.

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  • Hello Jax.

    You are NOT a failure......I say this because you are aware / awake to where you are and what MIGHT happen.  The fact that you are this aware / cognisant of your current position and trajectory = there us EVERY chance that things will change for the better for you......before any fateful day!

    My advice is to NOT put too much pressure on yourself.  Enjoy these days, but with an eye on the future too.  Whilst you are secure and happy (albeit with a standard and expected dose of self-loathing about your situation)......keep your eyes and ears open!  Good things come from random places, at random times.

    Keep the faith that things can change for you (for the better).......but don't try to force it.  Just keep aware - like you are already.

    Kind regards

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  • Hello Jax.

    You are NOT a failure......I say this because you are aware / awake to where you are and what MIGHT happen.  The fact that you are this aware / cognisant of your current position and trajectory = there us EVERY chance that things will change for the better for you......before any fateful day!

    My advice is to NOT put too much pressure on yourself.  Enjoy these days, but with an eye on the future too.  Whilst you are secure and happy (albeit with a standard and expected dose of self-loathing about your situation)......keep your eyes and ears open!  Good things come from random places, at random times.

    Keep the faith that things can change for you (for the better).......but don't try to force it.  Just keep aware - like you are already.

    Kind regards

    Number.

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