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What's wrong with the word 'no'

Cloud44

Seriously, why can't NTs just say no, or they don't know. Why so they just ignore you or not respond?? If you don't want to do something, there is a very simple word to use... No. Instead they leave you in limbo not knowing. I'm probably supposed to know that a lack of response means no, but my brain insists I can't say for sure until I get an answer. If this just me?

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  • I think Number is right. Maybe it's better to assume "no" and maybe be pleasantly surprised.

    But don't ever assume malice. They aren't trying to trick us (usually), It's politeness.

    I saw this taken to the extreme in Japan where "no" is rarely uttered. I asked a policeman if it was OK to do something, which I realised was a big "no", but he still only did "it's possibly best not to" gestures.

  • in reply to SpikeyMark

    A former boss of mine used to say ‘we’ll see how it goes’ to mean no. Used to make me laugh after a while.

    agree that no malice is intended but do think it’s either someone who doesn’t like confrontation refusing to just say no OR the person is a bit more selfish and would rather save face themselves and leave you feeling confused than just say what they mean. Minefield

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  • in reply to SpikeyMark

    A former boss of mine used to say ‘we’ll see how it goes’ to mean no. Used to make me laugh after a while.

    agree that no malice is intended but do think it’s either someone who doesn’t like confrontation refusing to just say no OR the person is a bit more selfish and would rather save face themselves and leave you feeling confused than just say what they mean. Minefield

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