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What's wrong with the word 'no'

Cloud44

Seriously, why can't NTs just say no, or they don't know. Why so they just ignore you or not respond?? If you don't want to do something, there is a very simple word to use... No. Instead they leave you in limbo not knowing. I'm probably supposed to know that a lack of response means no, but my brain insists I can't say for sure until I get an answer. If this just me?

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  • It's a word with deep cultural connotations, many people are afraid that they will lose face if they say no, one of the things I learnt about The Highlands and Islands of Scotland is if you'd like a favour from someone, you don't ask outright, so if you wanted a tractor for a day on thursday, and the person you were talking too had one, you wouldn't ask them out right because they'd be obliged to say yes, so you say to the universe, I really need the loan of a tractor next thursday, f they and their tractor were free they'd say yes if not they have the option of staying silent.

    Don't forget a lot of people won't take no for an answer and want to know exactly why you've said no and will really put pressure on you to change your mind, it's an uncomfortable position to be in, especially when it's a social situation and theres a group that all want to do something and you're the one that dosen't.

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  • It's a word with deep cultural connotations, many people are afraid that they will lose face if they say no, one of the things I learnt about The Highlands and Islands of Scotland is if you'd like a favour from someone, you don't ask outright, so if you wanted a tractor for a day on thursday, and the person you were talking too had one, you wouldn't ask them out right because they'd be obliged to say yes, so you say to the universe, I really need the loan of a tractor next thursday, f they and their tractor were free they'd say yes if not they have the option of staying silent.

    Don't forget a lot of people won't take no for an answer and want to know exactly why you've said no and will really put pressure on you to change your mind, it's an uncomfortable position to be in, especially when it's a social situation and theres a group that all want to do something and you're the one that dosen't.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    • This is very insightful. Did you come to this realisation over time or did you just realise it straight away? I feel like this is the kind of thing I’d like explained to me for many different scenarios. Totally get that there are these cultural things but no idea what they are until I learn them the hard way