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What's wrong with the word 'no'

Cloud44

Seriously, why can't NTs just say no, or they don't know. Why so they just ignore you or not respond?? If you don't want to do something, there is a very simple word to use... No. Instead they leave you in limbo not knowing. I'm probably supposed to know that a lack of response means no, but my brain insists I can't say for sure until I get an answer. If this just me?

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  • No - it's not just you.  I always presume the answer is "no" to any question that I pose that isn't answered (as per your OP point.)

    I have found that, presuming a "no", avoids disappointment!

    To be fair to ALL those NT's out there, I suffer from an equal but opposite problem to not being able to say "no"...ie.....I am able to (aka compelled to) say, very bluntly (but always kindly) NO - in no uncertain terms.  Some people can cope with outright honesty.....(and sometimes even admire it)......but most just take it to mean that I am a *~*~.

    I think that we autistic types REALLY value honesty and open and clear exchange of views/opinion/information.........so we find it hard to know why others seem to want to "hide" their feelings......especially when WE can often tell what they are thinking before they do (if we can be honest with ourselves and are blessed with an ability to 'see.'.)

    You raise a good and important point here Cloud44......I hope others will chime in.

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  • No - it's not just you.  I always presume the answer is "no" to any question that I pose that isn't answered (as per your OP point.)

    I have found that, presuming a "no", avoids disappointment!

    To be fair to ALL those NT's out there, I suffer from an equal but opposite problem to not being able to say "no"...ie.....I am able to (aka compelled to) say, very bluntly (but always kindly) NO - in no uncertain terms.  Some people can cope with outright honesty.....(and sometimes even admire it)......but most just take it to mean that I am a *~*~.

    I think that we autistic types REALLY value honesty and open and clear exchange of views/opinion/information.........so we find it hard to know why others seem to want to "hide" their feelings......especially when WE can often tell what they are thinking before they do (if we can be honest with ourselves and are blessed with an ability to 'see.'.)

    You raise a good and important point here Cloud44......I hope others will chime in.

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