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Partner of an autistic person

Warriorwisewoman

Hi, I’m struggling with my partners (seemingly) inability to recognise or acknowledge my emotional needs. 

He doesn’t have a diagnosis but the traits he presents and the impact it has, I believe he would be considered Asperger’s. (I hope it’s ok to use that term, I know autism is a spectrum)

I’ve tried explaining to him directly how I feel and what I need multiple times with no success.

At this point I’m not really looking for suggestions of how to get through to him, (but if you have some I’m all ears) what I’m really looking for is other people in my shoes who can tell me that I’m not alone. 

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  • Good afternoon, 

    While this is just my opinion, if I were in your partner's position, I'd suggest giving him an ultimatum. Outline what you consider a mutually beneficial relationship and present it to him. Then take some time apart as agreed. Upon return, ask if he can commit to this framework. Consider allowing a few vetoes or addendums for both of you. Neurodiverse individuals face challenges in a world designed for neurotypical people, but adapting is crucial for growth. Having an affliction does not mean others lose their self-worth. 

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  • Good afternoon, 

    While this is just my opinion, if I were in your partner's position, I'd suggest giving him an ultimatum. Outline what you consider a mutually beneficial relationship and present it to him. Then take some time apart as agreed. Upon return, ask if he can commit to this framework. Consider allowing a few vetoes or addendums for both of you. Neurodiverse individuals face challenges in a world designed for neurotypical people, but adapting is crucial for growth. Having an affliction does not mean others lose their self-worth. 

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