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Obsessing

Star

My mum is terminally ill and I don’t know what to do. I know I can’t do anything to stop her health from declining but I keep obsessing on things I can do to stop her from getting worse. Over thinking is my biggest problem and my mum being so sick is one of my worst nightmares come true. I’ve been trying to distract myself but it’s hard. I keep thinking about my mum and what will happen to her in the end.

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  • Dear Star,

    I have only just now seen your news about your Mum and the difficult time for you and shared by the people who know both you and your Mum.

    I hope you are able to take extra good care; to keep up with the healthy routines of your own daily life - to keep yourself well - as you deal with this extra stressful time.

    Even people we know well, don't always feel confident about what might be the right thing to say (to be helpful and supportive to us) when we are dealing with difficult family news. 

    Sometimes, that means people you know and would hope / expect they would naturally talk to you about everything - may seem to say less than usual. 

    That does not mean you cannot ask people you know in the real World for help with things that you are thinking about.

    It might be that they are just being respectful, trying to give you some time to think about the news in your own way and maybe people might be waiting to hear from you first - about how you feel they can be helpful to you these days. 

    Think of the different people you know well (most people will understand the importance of such difficult family news - but they might not realise - all by themself: which are the things worrying you compared to other people they might know).

    If you still are not sure about talking to people about things - Anna Mod has kindly listed a choice of telephone helpline contact numbers and the Shout text service too.

    What I am trying to say; is two things: 1) you are not alone and 2) you are allowed to ask for some help.

    Thinking of you.

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  • Dear Star,

    I have only just now seen your news about your Mum and the difficult time for you and shared by the people who know both you and your Mum.

    I hope you are able to take extra good care; to keep up with the healthy routines of your own daily life - to keep yourself well - as you deal with this extra stressful time.

    Even people we know well, don't always feel confident about what might be the right thing to say (to be helpful and supportive to us) when we are dealing with difficult family news. 

    Sometimes, that means people you know and would hope / expect they would naturally talk to you about everything - may seem to say less than usual. 

    That does not mean you cannot ask people you know in the real World for help with things that you are thinking about.

    It might be that they are just being respectful, trying to give you some time to think about the news in your own way and maybe people might be waiting to hear from you first - about how you feel they can be helpful to you these days. 

    Think of the different people you know well (most people will understand the importance of such difficult family news - but they might not realise - all by themself: which are the things worrying you compared to other people they might know).

    If you still are not sure about talking to people about things - Anna Mod has kindly listed a choice of telephone helpline contact numbers and the Shout text service too.

    What I am trying to say; is two things: 1) you are not alone and 2) you are allowed to ask for some help.

    Thinking of you.

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