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Romance

Thehopeavenue

Does anyone else worry that they won't find a romantic partner? 

I've had relationships but never been married, never lived with someone properly, only for days at a time.

I frequently hear things like "You need to be comfortable with yourself before you're able to be comfortable with others" when it comes to relationships but if anything, i am more than happy to be on my own for a frequent amount of time. It's finding the balance in a relationship without that person being neglected that I've struggled with.

For those of you in long term relationships, how have you made it work?

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  • Hi Thehopeavenue, 

    Thank you for posting to the community.

    Sarah Hendrickx, an independent coach who specialises in autism, did this interview with the NAS on successful relationships which may be useful to you: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/professional-practice/successful-relationships

    You might also want to try using our service directory to find a coach who who specialises in autism and relationships: https://www.autism.org.uk/autism-services-directory

    I hope this helps. 

    Gina Mod 

  • in reply to Gina Mod

    Disapointing to see that Hendrickx barely touches upon forming relationships and that her comments mostly seems to be focused on social anxiaty. It's been my observation profesionals discussing relationships and autism have strikingly little to say about forming relationships (especially romantic ones).

    Simply observing that you need to be able to go out and mix with people is so banal and obvious. I don't think autistic people like myself are single because they are afraid to go out and mingel. Or that it's because they are oblivious when people are intrested in them. I think it's because they struggel at that hurdel of atracting others. I've yet to see a professional that wants to touch that issue with a barge pole. No one wants to be accused of being the autistic persons instructional pick up artist but to my mind this is where the need is.

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  • in reply to Gina Mod

    Disapointing to see that Hendrickx barely touches upon forming relationships and that her comments mostly seems to be focused on social anxiaty. It's been my observation profesionals discussing relationships and autism have strikingly little to say about forming relationships (especially romantic ones).

    Simply observing that you need to be able to go out and mix with people is so banal and obvious. I don't think autistic people like myself are single because they are afraid to go out and mingel. Or that it's because they are oblivious when people are intrested in them. I think it's because they struggel at that hurdel of atracting others. I've yet to see a professional that wants to touch that issue with a barge pole. No one wants to be accused of being the autistic persons instructional pick up artist but to my mind this is where the need is.

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