Feeling like my neurotypical friends don't understand my autism

Most don't, because they don't take the time to really listen. I just wanted to offer some hope that not all neurotypical people are like this, my best friend and husband are unbelievably supportive and go out of their way to understand. What I have learned, though, is that both NT and ND have to adapt to meet in the middle. We can't expect them to adapt to our way of thinking if we can't do the same for them. For example, when I meet my friend for coffee, we automatically head for the corner table, no questions asked. But if it's not free I will to put up with sitting elsewhere. Most of the time she won't expect me to go to noisy or crowded places with her, but for special occasions, like a birthday, I make the extra effort to do it.

Not all my friends are like this though, I've broken ties with some of them since my diagnosis because they won't accept or acknowledge it. I hope eventually you will find friends who will listen.

Most don't, because they don't take the time to really listen. I just wanted to offer some hope that not all neurotypical people are like this, my best friend and husband are unbelievably supportive and go out of their way to understand. What I have learned, though, is that both NT and ND have to adapt to meet in the middle. We can't expect them to adapt to our way of thinking if we can't do the same for them. For example, when I meet my friend for coffee, we automatically head for the corner table, no questions asked. But if it's not free I will to put up with sitting elsewhere. Most of the time she won't expect me to go to noisy or crowded places with her, but for special occasions, like a birthday, I make the extra effort to do it.

Not all my friends are like this though, I've broken ties with some of them since my diagnosis because they won't accept or acknowledge it. I hope eventually you will find friends who will listen.