Feeling like my neurotypical friends don't understand my autism

I don't think they ever do really understand, or us them as others have pointed out. I'm a very reclusive sort of person and don't have many friends by choice, those few I do have, I tend to do certain things with, like dog walking, one of my dog walking friends is interested in some of the same things as me so we have good conversations, but she's not there often, so we mostly talk about our dogs and food.

I think thats sort of how it has to be with NT's you can be there for each other and stuff like that, but in mnay areas of life you just pass like ships in the night. One of the problems I've found with NT people, particulalry women, is that they want to keep the "group" together when planing on doing anything, I've felt really uncomfortable on many occaisions when because of my various food intolerances I don't want to go to a restaurant they all want to go to, I'm quite happy for them to go without me and for me to go home and do something else, they don't get that and try and find compromises or theres some subtle and sometimes no so subtle bullying for me to go along with them. It seems to lead to an exhausting amount of conflict and aggravation to my brain, so much so that I don't even want to out with them anymore.

I don't think they ever do really understand, or us them as others have pointed out. I'm a very reclusive sort of person and don't have many friends by choice, those few I do have, I tend to do certain things with, like dog walking, one of my dog walking friends is interested in some of the same things as me so we have good conversations, but she's not there often, so we mostly talk about our dogs and food.

I think thats sort of how it has to be with NT's you can be there for each other and stuff like that, but in mnay areas of life you just pass like ships in the night. One of the problems I've found with NT people, particulalry women, is that they want to keep the "group" together when planing on doing anything, I've felt really uncomfortable on many occaisions when because of my various food intolerances I don't want to go to a restaurant they all want to go to, I'm quite happy for them to go without me and for me to go home and do something else, they don't get that and try and find compromises or theres some subtle and sometimes no so subtle bullying for me to go along with them. It seems to lead to an exhausting amount of conflict and aggravation to my brain, so much so that I don't even want to out with them anymore.