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Struggling with the news I had last night

Rach91

Hi last night my dad phoned me and told me that him and his partner are getting married in August and I’m really struggling with that. After I lost my mum it destroyed us both my dad really struggling for a while we both did. My parents were married for over 30 years. Then my dad found someone else she really nice but isn’t my mum. He is living in Scotland with her now and is happy but it’s a lot for me to take in and I’m really struggling. My friend Rikki said he might be my plus one at the wedding which I am thankful for because I feel I am going to need the support and I know I should be happy for my dad but I don’t understand why marriage? It’s a lot to take in and I feel if my parents were divorced and my mum was still alive it would be a different. 

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  • You are right Rach - that is big news for you to try and digest in one!  Naturally, the news opens up your emotions again regarding all that came previously.  I think you will need some time and head-space to process this news properly.....so please try not to rush yourself with the process.  I suspect that EVERYONE will understand the impact of this news on you, so they will all hopefully grant you some space and time to process things.

    Moving on from the death of a close family member, and the inevitable impact that this causes to the whole family dynamic is massive......AND there are our own personal feelings too.

    I have faith that you will get through this time, and it is clear from what you write, that in your heart-of-hearts, you know everything is AOK, it's just hard!

    I wish you strength, fortitude and comfort......you know where you can get those things from mate.

    All my best to you.

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  • You are right Rach - that is big news for you to try and digest in one!  Naturally, the news opens up your emotions again regarding all that came previously.  I think you will need some time and head-space to process this news properly.....so please try not to rush yourself with the process.  I suspect that EVERYONE will understand the impact of this news on you, so they will all hopefully grant you some space and time to process things.

    Moving on from the death of a close family member, and the inevitable impact that this causes to the whole family dynamic is massive......AND there are our own personal feelings too.

    I have faith that you will get through this time, and it is clear from what you write, that in your heart-of-hearts, you know everything is AOK, it's just hard!

    I wish you strength, fortitude and comfort......you know where you can get those things from mate.

    All my best to you.

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