3 Good Things (again)

As it can take a looong time for faults to be remedied, I thought this could fill in for now?

1.  My Vabysmo eye injection this afternoon at the hospital.

2.  I wore my 'hidden disabilities' thingy around my neck.

3.  Home and having a curry tonight Blush

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    1. I overheard my daughters friend tell her «your mom is so pretty». Made my day.
    2. Recently decided I wanted to knit some moomin socks despite not really knowing how to and they are starting to look like socks and I am so proud. 
    3. I have a new leader at work who has done more to accommodate my autism in 3 days than my old leader in over 6 months. 
  • Hello! Amazing to overhear a compliment! Might I ask what did your new leader do to accommodate you at work? I am trying to figure out this and I can ask only here. Many thanksButterfly

  • Sure :) So far, we have had one initial meeting. Further meetings have been scheduled, and clear timelines have been established.

    By the end of January, we will have identified concrete actions. By the end of June, these actions will have been tested and evaluated.

    We have agreed on making home office possible when needed, delegating certain tasks to others to reduce workload, and using written communication as the primary mode of communication. We have also agreed on a more flexible self-certification arrangement than what is standard.

    All of this is based on a written document outlining my needs and challenges, which serves as the foundation for our discussions.

    A follow-up meeting has been scheduled for next week to discuss further accommodations.

  • Oh thanks so so much! Let me read this slowly! This is magical for me! Crystal ballPray tone1

  • Here you go  , hope this helps! :) 

    Requested accommodations / Identified needs

    Based on personal experience and professional guidance, I have identified the following needs. Individually or combined, these adjustments support sustainable performance and reduce the risk of overload:

    Predictability and planning

    • Advance notice of meetings, changes, and new tasks

    • Avoidance of tight or last-minute deadlines

    • Clear timelines to allow for planning and pacing of work

    Predictability reduces stress and makes it easier to deliver consistently over time.

    Clear expectations

    • Clearly defined tasks, scope, priorities, and deadlines

    • Explicit delegation rather than implicit expectations

    Unclear or vaguely defined tasks create uncertainty and significantly increase cognitive load.

    Written communication

    • Written communication (email/messages) as the primary mode of communication

    • Limited reliance on phone calls and spontaneous verbal communication

    Written communication allows me to process information at my own pace, reduces misunderstandings, and lowers social and sensory strain.

    Reduced interruptions and protected focus time

    • Ability to work without frequent interruptions

    • Respect for signals indicating need for focus (e.g. closed door, headphones)

    Uninterrupted time is essential for deep concentration and high-quality output.

    Ability to withdraw when overstimulated

    • Access to quiet space, breaks, or a calmer work environment when needed

    • Flexibility in the workday to regulate sensory and cognitive load

    This helps prevent escalation into exhaustion or burnout.

    Defined role and limited scope

    • A clearly defined area of responsibility

    • No expectation to step into ad hoc roles such as customer-facing or reactive tasks

    Clear boundaries reduce overload and increase predictability.

    Limited and clear contact points

    • Fewer, well-defined points of contact in daily work

    • Clear ownership of tasks and decisions

    This improves overview, reduces competing demands, and supports better focus.

    Structured meetings

    • Meetings scheduled in advance

    • Clear agendas and purpose

    • Avoidance of frequent or spontaneous meetings

    Unstructured or excessive meetings are highly draining.

    Flexible participation in social and demanding settings

    • Participation in social activities on my own terms

    • No expectation to take responsibility in unpredictable situations

    • Ability to step away or regulate intensity when needed

    This makes participation sustainable rather than exhausting.

    Flexibility around capacity

    • Recognition that capacity may vary from day to day

    • Planning and expectations that allow for this variability

    This supports long-term stability and consistent contribution.

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  • Here you go  , hope this helps! :) 

    Requested accommodations / Identified needs

    Based on personal experience and professional guidance, I have identified the following needs. Individually or combined, these adjustments support sustainable performance and reduce the risk of overload:

    Predictability and planning

    • Advance notice of meetings, changes, and new tasks

    • Avoidance of tight or last-minute deadlines

    • Clear timelines to allow for planning and pacing of work

    Predictability reduces stress and makes it easier to deliver consistently over time.

    Clear expectations

    • Clearly defined tasks, scope, priorities, and deadlines

    • Explicit delegation rather than implicit expectations

    Unclear or vaguely defined tasks create uncertainty and significantly increase cognitive load.

    Written communication

    • Written communication (email/messages) as the primary mode of communication

    • Limited reliance on phone calls and spontaneous verbal communication

    Written communication allows me to process information at my own pace, reduces misunderstandings, and lowers social and sensory strain.

    Reduced interruptions and protected focus time

    • Ability to work without frequent interruptions

    • Respect for signals indicating need for focus (e.g. closed door, headphones)

    Uninterrupted time is essential for deep concentration and high-quality output.

    Ability to withdraw when overstimulated

    • Access to quiet space, breaks, or a calmer work environment when needed

    • Flexibility in the workday to regulate sensory and cognitive load

    This helps prevent escalation into exhaustion or burnout.

    Defined role and limited scope

    • A clearly defined area of responsibility

    • No expectation to step into ad hoc roles such as customer-facing or reactive tasks

    Clear boundaries reduce overload and increase predictability.

    Limited and clear contact points

    • Fewer, well-defined points of contact in daily work

    • Clear ownership of tasks and decisions

    This improves overview, reduces competing demands, and supports better focus.

    Structured meetings

    • Meetings scheduled in advance

    • Clear agendas and purpose

    • Avoidance of frequent or spontaneous meetings

    Unstructured or excessive meetings are highly draining.

    Flexible participation in social and demanding settings

    • Participation in social activities on my own terms

    • No expectation to take responsibility in unpredictable situations

    • Ability to step away or regulate intensity when needed

    This makes participation sustainable rather than exhausting.

    Flexibility around capacity

    • Recognition that capacity may vary from day to day

    • Planning and expectations that allow for this variability

    This supports long-term stability and consistent contribution.

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