Late Diagnosis with ASD and ADHD

EN20471 9 months ago

Afternoon all

i have just received my formal diagnosis, at 57 - which confirmed what i, and a lot suspected, despite many years of successfully masking symptoms. I have a stable,very good job and great employer but i have few real friends outside my marriage. I want to go to some form of talking therapy around the Northampton area where i can share my concerns and apprehensions in a safe non judgemental environment, but have been unable to find such an opportunity. i have a loving wife who is incredibly supportive but i fear that my condition will eventually tip her over the edge so i am desperate to learn of what i can do to to mitigate my life and improvement my relationship

Does anyone know of such an opportunity?

many thanks

simon

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Bunny 9 months ago

In respect of your relationship with your wife, I recommend this book. It focuses on helping autistic + neurotypical couples to work on their relationships through improved mutual understanding and communication, complete with exercises that you can both complete and discuss, if you wish:

Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome: Understanding and Connecting with your Partner

Note: the book was written when Asperger's syndrome was still an official diagnostic term, whereas this now simply falls under Autism Spectrum Disorder / Condition (ie autism).

Caveat: when moving from discussion of one issue / scenario to the next, the author often switches which of the partners is neurodivergent (him / her), which can make it a little confusing until you've worked out who's who each time. But that inconvenience felt well worth the effort to me.

You and your wife might also find this NAS resource helpful:

NAS - Family relationships - a guide for partners of autistic people
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Bunny 9 months ago

In respect of your relationship with your wife, I recommend this book. It focuses on helping autistic + neurotypical couples to work on their relationships through improved mutual understanding and communication, complete with exercises that you can both complete and discuss, if you wish:

Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome: Understanding and Connecting with your Partner

Note: the book was written when Asperger's syndrome was still an official diagnostic term, whereas this now simply falls under Autism Spectrum Disorder / Condition (ie autism).

Caveat: when moving from discussion of one issue / scenario to the next, the author often switches which of the partners is neurodivergent (him / her), which can make it a little confusing until you've worked out who's who each time. But that inconvenience felt well worth the effort to me.

You and your wife might also find this NAS resource helpful:

NAS - Family relationships - a guide for partners of autistic people
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