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Preference to chat with one or two people

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I prefer to chat with just one or two people - more than that and it doesn't feel so comfortable. In a group, communication feels more forced and less natural to me. Is this because there are too many people to focus on and the conversation becomes more "random"?

Does anyone have any knowledge or ideas about this?

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  • I can only say I have similar experience. For me the only way I can communicate is me + 1 person. If it’s me +2 people- it’s a crowd. I can’t manage it and just naturally fall out because these two get busy with their chat, they gesticulate and get excited about their topic. This unfortunately also applies to my family. I know I process information slower than others it takes me longer to understand and answer or react etc. do this issue may be also related to this. This is my persistent problem my whole life. I’ve absolutely never managed to be like others in social chitchat. It used to upset me a lot. Now I kinda accepted that I just can’t. Maybe the explanation is autism or maybe some other delay or disorder. I had some developmental irregularities as a child so there might be something else. 

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  • I can only say I have similar experience. For me the only way I can communicate is me + 1 person. If it’s me +2 people- it’s a crowd. I can’t manage it and just naturally fall out because these two get busy with their chat, they gesticulate and get excited about their topic. This unfortunately also applies to my family. I know I process information slower than others it takes me longer to understand and answer or react etc. do this issue may be also related to this. This is my persistent problem my whole life. I’ve absolutely never managed to be like others in social chitchat. It used to upset me a lot. Now I kinda accepted that I just can’t. Maybe the explanation is autism or maybe some other delay or disorder. I had some developmental irregularities as a child so there might be something else. 

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