Feeling heartbroken and upset

As a non diagnosed man currently only believing I have autism what I say may not have much impact because it’s only my word for it. I feel so let down by health services, especially the psychiatric ones which I’ve had dealings with since I was aged 12 due to school bullying, anxiety and depression. I’ve been obsessively reading about autism (Here, online, kindle) for the past week or two and still really confused as to why NOW I’m suddenly a believer and all it’s done is break my heart because no one’s been caring enough to put it all together or even try. I’ve been in psych wards voluntarily due to alcohol misuse, I’ve damn near killed myself because I had to shut out emotions and even then nothing, not a mention. Seen many different psychiatric nurses in the community and psychiatrist by appointment my ENTIRE life. This isn’t some trendy idea that I have, it’s not something that you can decide to have i just cannot understand with all my heart and soul how I could not see this sooner. I cannot truly believe no one thought to question it? I don’t care a single bit for the working policies of health professionals, I don’t care a single bit for their red tape. I don’t care a single bit that you only deal with the issue presented to you, be better and do better. 

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  • I can relate. I discovered that I am Autistic a little over a year ago, at the age of 53. Initially I was shocked, then I was angry. Like you I cannot believe that this had been missed. I've been under the mental health team for years, and seen numerous people. 

    I knew something wasn't right, because after all the treatment, input, medication and private counselling I had , nothing was helping. I just thought I was 'broken'. 

    I feel relieved now, knowing that I'm not 'broken' but I'm processing decades of my life now. Voluntary and non voluntary. With memories popping up at random, and I'm having regular nightmares. I guess it's just the brain trying to make sense of everything.  I still can't quite believe that I am Autistic. It feels like I'm going to pinch myself and wake up from this crazy journey. 

    But I do feel better about myself. I'm more compassionate towards myself, my behaviours and reactions. And I am working on forgiving myself. I did all that I could, with what I knew. Or more to the point with what I didn't know (I'm not sure that makes sense, but I know what I mean). 

    I'm changing too. Masking less, making adjusts to make my life easier to manage. It takes time to get to know your real self and understand yourself and your  needs. I still get overwhelmed, shutdown and have meltdowns. But now I know why and I'm kinder to myself. 

    I feel for you.

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  • I can relate. I discovered that I am Autistic a little over a year ago, at the age of 53. Initially I was shocked, then I was angry. Like you I cannot believe that this had been missed. I've been under the mental health team for years, and seen numerous people. 

    I knew something wasn't right, because after all the treatment, input, medication and private counselling I had , nothing was helping. I just thought I was 'broken'. 

    I feel relieved now, knowing that I'm not 'broken' but I'm processing decades of my life now. Voluntary and non voluntary. With memories popping up at random, and I'm having regular nightmares. I guess it's just the brain trying to make sense of everything.  I still can't quite believe that I am Autistic. It feels like I'm going to pinch myself and wake up from this crazy journey. 

    But I do feel better about myself. I'm more compassionate towards myself, my behaviours and reactions. And I am working on forgiving myself. I did all that I could, with what I knew. Or more to the point with what I didn't know (I'm not sure that makes sense, but I know what I mean). 

    I'm changing too. Masking less, making adjusts to make my life easier to manage. It takes time to get to know your real self and understand yourself and your  needs. I still get overwhelmed, shutdown and have meltdowns. But now I know why and I'm kinder to myself. 

    I feel for you.

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