Living with my parents is absolutely terrible

I'm sorry you feel like this. This is only slightly similar, but there was a period in my life where I needed to rent rooms because I had nowhere else to live while I was starting my career. It was cheaper than renting, but the lack of my own space I could call my own really drained me and didn't leave me feeling very happy.

As unhappy as you are, I was hoping to offer the other perspective. I am a father myself you see, with a 12 year old daughter who is autistic (I'm not sure of your age group, you don't say). We've learned to be very tolerant of her space and what she needs, she usually tends to stay in her room a lot, plus lock her door a lot. I won't go in her room without express permission anymore, but it does add challenges - I have to talk through a solid door to her now, so it's just physically harder to communicate with her now. Locking her door, as others have suggested, also makes me wary for her safety, since if something happened to her then I would not be able to help her. I have had one occasion where I was forced to unscrew her lock because she was having a panic attack about something and I simply couldn't get her to open the door, for instance.

The point I'm trying to make is that although I can sympathise with your situation, I can also see it from your parent's perspective too. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with them, but I would hope that they love and care for you, and only want to make sure you are safe - it's all I want for my daughter.

It doesn't really help you though, so I agree with what some other people have said in that you may need to make a choice as to what to do next, because there are always choices in life. Doing nothing is a kind of choice, but the result of that is that nothing will also change either. Since you don't describe your situation much - age, work, whether you could live on your own etc - I can only think that the most short term solution would be to explain to your parents what you need. Again, I don't really know what your relationship is like with them, but if you don't talk to them in some way and tell them what you need, they will never know and never be able to help make things better for you.

I'm sorry you feel like this. This is only slightly similar, but there was a period in my life where I needed to rent rooms because I had nowhere else to live while I was starting my career. It was cheaper than renting, but the lack of my own space I could call my own really drained me and didn't leave me feeling very happy.

As unhappy as you are, I was hoping to offer the other perspective. I am a father myself you see, with a 12 year old daughter who is autistic (I'm not sure of your age group, you don't say). We've learned to be very tolerant of her space and what she needs, she usually tends to stay in her room a lot, plus lock her door a lot. I won't go in her room without express permission anymore, but it does add challenges - I have to talk through a solid door to her now, so it's just physically harder to communicate with her now. Locking her door, as others have suggested, also makes me wary for her safety, since if something happened to her then I would not be able to help her. I have had one occasion where I was forced to unscrew her lock because she was having a panic attack about something and I simply couldn't get her to open the door, for instance.

The point I'm trying to make is that although I can sympathise with your situation, I can also see it from your parent's perspective too. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with them, but I would hope that they love and care for you, and only want to make sure you are safe - it's all I want for my daughter.

It doesn't really help you though, so I agree with what some other people have said in that you may need to make a choice as to what to do next, because there are always choices in life. Doing nothing is a kind of choice, but the result of that is that nothing will also change either. Since you don't describe your situation much - age, work, whether you could live on your own etc - I can only think that the most short term solution would be to explain to your parents what you need. Again, I don't really know what your relationship is like with them, but if you don't talk to them in some way and tell them what you need, they will never know and never be able to help make things better for you.