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The Lighter side

crazydarkside

Hi,

I was talking to misskittykat yesterday, and she happened to mention trying to explain to her son why the busy train satation aused her daughter to meltdown, and yet she was happy to go bowling and to the cinema instead and it got me thinking how I often struggle to explain to my parents why my monster likes bowling, and the cinemas, but the sound of a felt tip pen on paper drives him completely insane!!  

Then I started smiling as I remembered that my wonderful son will try to use the sensitivity issues to his advantage, he hates washing his hands after using the bathroom, because it takes time away from his laptop, so his latest one, was that he couldn't wash his hands as the water hurt!  When I explained, plainly that he needed to wash his hands after going to the toilet to get rid of germs, he said ok and wondered off to his bedroom, without washing them.  When I asked where he was going, he looked at me grinned and said, that I hadn't stated that he needed to wash his hands each and every time he went to the toilet, so as long as he washed his hands sometimes, this would be ok.Needless to say he got marched back in to the bathroom.  In front of a giggling mum.  Loopholes, I will learn to close them eventually!!!!Laughing

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  • Please don't be upset. There is and must be a lighter side to life with a person on the spectrum for their families or we would all be deeply depressed all the time. We have used gentle humour to diffuse so many situations where our Grandson is struggling with a problem. Its never used to make fun of him as I am sure you weren't but usually to celebrate the good things about the situation while we instruct him on the less good things. 

    Our Grandson will often tell us he has brushed his teeth but if we ask him if he has JUST brushed his teeth he will give us a lop sided grin and say 'You didn't ask me WHEN I brushed my teeth. You asked me IF brushed my teeth. He can be extremely sweet and funny even when he is a little confused or reluctant and a good giggle often diffuses difficult situations and then he is happy for me to take him up to the bathroom and watch him do them. So I say if humour works for you and your child then use any tool you feel has a positive effect. We can read our child now and can tell when a bit of humour can work. We wouldn't use it if he isn't in the mood for it.

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  • Please don't be upset. There is and must be a lighter side to life with a person on the spectrum for their families or we would all be deeply depressed all the time. We have used gentle humour to diffuse so many situations where our Grandson is struggling with a problem. Its never used to make fun of him as I am sure you weren't but usually to celebrate the good things about the situation while we instruct him on the less good things. 

    Our Grandson will often tell us he has brushed his teeth but if we ask him if he has JUST brushed his teeth he will give us a lop sided grin and say 'You didn't ask me WHEN I brushed my teeth. You asked me IF brushed my teeth. He can be extremely sweet and funny even when he is a little confused or reluctant and a good giggle often diffuses difficult situations and then he is happy for me to take him up to the bathroom and watch him do them. So I say if humour works for you and your child then use any tool you feel has a positive effect. We can read our child now and can tell when a bit of humour can work. We wouldn't use it if he isn't in the mood for it.

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