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crazydarkside

Hi,

I was talking to misskittykat yesterday, and she happened to mention trying to explain to her son why the busy train satation aused her daughter to meltdown, and yet she was happy to go bowling and to the cinema instead and it got me thinking how I often struggle to explain to my parents why my monster likes bowling, and the cinemas, but the sound of a felt tip pen on paper drives him completely insane!!  

Then I started smiling as I remembered that my wonderful son will try to use the sensitivity issues to his advantage, he hates washing his hands after using the bathroom, because it takes time away from his laptop, so his latest one, was that he couldn't wash his hands as the water hurt!  When I explained, plainly that he needed to wash his hands after going to the toilet to get rid of germs, he said ok and wondered off to his bedroom, without washing them.  When I asked where he was going, he looked at me grinned and said, that I hadn't stated that he needed to wash his hands each and every time he went to the toilet, so as long as he washed his hands sometimes, this would be ok.Needless to say he got marched back in to the bathroom.  In front of a giggling mum.  Loopholes, I will learn to close them eventually!!!!Laughing

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  • Our Grandson wouldn't dream of drinking out of cups or glasses or even taking food off of our plates because of germs. 

    But he thinks nothing of smearing up the sides of the bath and walls in the bathroom and then walking out without washing his hands. 

    Sometimes we have to laugh between us at the problems a little and try our best to encourage him to be more attentive in the bathroom. It doesn't mean we don't care about the problems or are trying to belittle them. We and other parents have learnt that a sense of humour is a vital factor in rasing a child on the spectrum. Just as ASD children have coping mechanisms, so do their parents have to find them as well. I understand that somebody on the spectrum might find the fact that we make light of the issues sometimes difficult...but that's just because we need to keep going sometimes. I think that this is what Crazydarkside was trying to say. 

    We can't hope to understand all the mysteries of this very complex spectrum but we do realise that they exist and we try, try and try again to assist our grandson with them. Considering the challenges many parents with ASD children face, a house filled with laughter and giggles is a much healthier place than one of that is constantly too serious.

    We have Tony Attwood's excellent book. Its been a great help to us.

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  • Our Grandson wouldn't dream of drinking out of cups or glasses or even taking food off of our plates because of germs. 

    But he thinks nothing of smearing up the sides of the bath and walls in the bathroom and then walking out without washing his hands. 

    Sometimes we have to laugh between us at the problems a little and try our best to encourage him to be more attentive in the bathroom. It doesn't mean we don't care about the problems or are trying to belittle them. We and other parents have learnt that a sense of humour is a vital factor in rasing a child on the spectrum. Just as ASD children have coping mechanisms, so do their parents have to find them as well. I understand that somebody on the spectrum might find the fact that we make light of the issues sometimes difficult...but that's just because we need to keep going sometimes. I think that this is what Crazydarkside was trying to say. 

    We can't hope to understand all the mysteries of this very complex spectrum but we do realise that they exist and we try, try and try again to assist our grandson with them. Considering the challenges many parents with ASD children face, a house filled with laughter and giggles is a much healthier place than one of that is constantly too serious.

    We have Tony Attwood's excellent book. Its been a great help to us.

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