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crazydarkside

Hi,

I was talking to misskittykat yesterday, and she happened to mention trying to explain to her son why the busy train satation aused her daughter to meltdown, and yet she was happy to go bowling and to the cinema instead and it got me thinking how I often struggle to explain to my parents why my monster likes bowling, and the cinemas, but the sound of a felt tip pen on paper drives him completely insane!!  

Then I started smiling as I remembered that my wonderful son will try to use the sensitivity issues to his advantage, he hates washing his hands after using the bathroom, because it takes time away from his laptop, so his latest one, was that he couldn't wash his hands as the water hurt!  When I explained, plainly that he needed to wash his hands after going to the toilet to get rid of germs, he said ok and wondered off to his bedroom, without washing them.  When I asked where he was going, he looked at me grinned and said, that I hadn't stated that he needed to wash his hands each and every time he went to the toilet, so as long as he washed his hands sometimes, this would be ok.Needless to say he got marched back in to the bathroom.  In front of a giggling mum.  Loopholes, I will learn to close them eventually!!!!Laughing

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  • One of the ways I try to tackle my own reactions to sound is to find somewhere to sit near them where I can relax and analyse what is happening. I need to use stations to get around (I don't have a car) so I cannot just avoid them.

    By gaining understanding of what sounds are difficult, I can strategise visits to stations so I know how long I can cope OK, and where there are quieter areas I can go to when I start to feel uncomfortable - waiting trooms without piped music and with closing doors, or on the open ends of platforms, away from the canopy, are often quieter.

    One of the problem points for me are ticket barriers on the bridge. It is a complex noise environment, and movement of many people as well, which involves waiting and trying to get through the barriers.

    Thing is, taking railway stations as intimidating as a whole, it means children on the spectrum become scared altogether of rail travel. Avoidance is a common reaction, which increases isolation.

    If parents (instead of laughing, smiling and giggling at things they don't comprehend) helped their kids defuse the difficulties in stations and help them develop coping strategies it might make their lives better.

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  • One of the ways I try to tackle my own reactions to sound is to find somewhere to sit near them where I can relax and analyse what is happening. I need to use stations to get around (I don't have a car) so I cannot just avoid them.

    By gaining understanding of what sounds are difficult, I can strategise visits to stations so I know how long I can cope OK, and where there are quieter areas I can go to when I start to feel uncomfortable - waiting trooms without piped music and with closing doors, or on the open ends of platforms, away from the canopy, are often quieter.

    One of the problem points for me are ticket barriers on the bridge. It is a complex noise environment, and movement of many people as well, which involves waiting and trying to get through the barriers.

    Thing is, taking railway stations as intimidating as a whole, it means children on the spectrum become scared altogether of rail travel. Avoidance is a common reaction, which increases isolation.

    If parents (instead of laughing, smiling and giggling at things they don't comprehend) helped their kids defuse the difficulties in stations and help them develop coping strategies it might make their lives better.

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