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crazydarkside

Hi,

I was talking to misskittykat yesterday, and she happened to mention trying to explain to her son why the busy train satation aused her daughter to meltdown, and yet she was happy to go bowling and to the cinema instead and it got me thinking how I often struggle to explain to my parents why my monster likes bowling, and the cinemas, but the sound of a felt tip pen on paper drives him completely insane!!  

Then I started smiling as I remembered that my wonderful son will try to use the sensitivity issues to his advantage, he hates washing his hands after using the bathroom, because it takes time away from his laptop, so his latest one, was that he couldn't wash his hands as the water hurt!  When I explained, plainly that he needed to wash his hands after going to the toilet to get rid of germs, he said ok and wondered off to his bedroom, without washing them.  When I asked where he was going, he looked at me grinned and said, that I hadn't stated that he needed to wash his hands each and every time he went to the toilet, so as long as he washed his hands sometimes, this would be ok.Needless to say he got marched back in to the bathroom.  In front of a giggling mum.  Loopholes, I will learn to close them eventually!!!!Laughing

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  • But is this behaviour exclusive to children on the spectrum? Surely most mums report difficulty getting their kids to wash their hands after going to the toilet.....

    A more likely issue with some children on the spectrum could be over cleanliness, even OCD hand washing.

    The busy train station involves complex sound levels from all directions in an unpredictable pattern. Might seem daft you, but I'm an adult at the mild end, and stations can be very difficult environments for me.

    Bowling and cinema are much more predictable, or predictably surprising.

    This sensitivity to sound is very difficult for NTs to understand, and it does need greater understanding (but not being part of the blessed TRIAD it is ignored by autism researchers!).

    Likewise some children on the spectrum are hypersensitive to certain types of sound, partly because they hear them in greater amplitude - so felt tip squeaking on paper REALLY could be disturbing.

    Also some children are sensitive to water - may be hard to comprehend, but there are real issues.

    Instead of laughing at your child's difficulties, why not read up about these issues - buy a copy of Attwood's Complete Guide to Asperger's. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean its not there!

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  • But is this behaviour exclusive to children on the spectrum? Surely most mums report difficulty getting their kids to wash their hands after going to the toilet.....

    A more likely issue with some children on the spectrum could be over cleanliness, even OCD hand washing.

    The busy train station involves complex sound levels from all directions in an unpredictable pattern. Might seem daft you, but I'm an adult at the mild end, and stations can be very difficult environments for me.

    Bowling and cinema are much more predictable, or predictably surprising.

    This sensitivity to sound is very difficult for NTs to understand, and it does need greater understanding (but not being part of the blessed TRIAD it is ignored by autism researchers!).

    Likewise some children on the spectrum are hypersensitive to certain types of sound, partly because they hear them in greater amplitude - so felt tip squeaking on paper REALLY could be disturbing.

    Also some children are sensitive to water - may be hard to comprehend, but there are real issues.

    Instead of laughing at your child's difficulties, why not read up about these issues - buy a copy of Attwood's Complete Guide to Asperger's. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean its not there!

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