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Written to a guy I like

Rainbowgirl

Hi everyone 

I have written to a guy that I like because I find it easier to express myself that way.  The letter was very casual and chatty and I said if you like to chat sometime here my mobile number.  I have been getting bit nervous and anxious about whole thing because I have spoken to him before but those setting were in more professional settings and I am worried he won't see me beyond that.  Even though we live the same area and he will regular hi and how are you when he see me.  He is not autistic. 

I just wanted some advice as I don't deal well with things especially when my letters are not acknowledged.  It can me feel sad and I don't how long to wait. 

  

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  • Iain is spot on with his advice.

    Don't worry about it too much.

    An analogy... I go fishing when I can, when I started on one type of fishing years ago, I caught on my first trip, so I was "hooked" on the hobby. Years later I switched to another type and didn't catch anything for many many trips.

    You can easily start to think that -

    1. You're no good at fishing
    2. You have the wrong kit
    3. There are no fish
    4. Your methods are wrong
    5. Many other things 

    But there's so many factors, weather, water level, traffic, barometric pressure, time of day, time of year,  amount of light, pressure from other people, fish just feeling lazy.

    This metaphor is designed to explain that you shouldn't give up and don't feel negative, if there is a rejection it's not necessarily any negative reflection on you.  it's difficult when it's something you really want, but it will happen, have a little faith in yourself.

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