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Burnout

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Hello, this is my first post here.

I was recently diagnosed autistic a week before I turned 30, now I feel like I am navigating it on my own.

I wondered if anyone feels comfortable sharing their experience of burnout and what helped you get put of burnout / recover.

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  • Burnout hit me really bad a couple of years ago. I am still recovering. It's what drove me to finally get a diagnosis. I didn't feel it was 'normal' for me to be getting so exhausted that I literally couldn't function. I am desperately trying to recover, but am still left with the neurosis of feeling lazy, useless, and a whole lot of other shame based stuff linked to other people's thoughts of me. 

    I do wonder if I hadn't caught COVID if I would have allowed myself to recognise burnout for what it was. I was somewhat surprised when I was pulled into a Universal Credit Work Capability Assessment and they concluded that I should be placed in Limited Capability for Work and Related Activity - basically, I wasn't well and not fit for work or even preparing to work. It hit me really hard, but it forced me to face a truth. A counsellor I spoke to at the time likened it to me having raced down a road at 100mph, then finally hitting a brick wall. I survived, but now I can look back and see just how harmful things had been. It was like by going down that road, but not acknowledging my burnout and limitations, I had left a lot of wreckage and damage behind me. 

    I am sadly still struggling because I'm finding myself trying to rush back to 'normal'. I'm trying to work within my energy limits (energy accounting), but I find it frustrating that I can't do everything I feel I should do.

    My takeaway if I am being honest is to take burnout seriously. Don't keep putting off stopping, slowing down, resting. Otherwise you can end up with more (metaphorical) damage and wreckage on the road behind you that will take longer to clean up. 

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  • Burnout hit me really bad a couple of years ago. I am still recovering. It's what drove me to finally get a diagnosis. I didn't feel it was 'normal' for me to be getting so exhausted that I literally couldn't function. I am desperately trying to recover, but am still left with the neurosis of feeling lazy, useless, and a whole lot of other shame based stuff linked to other people's thoughts of me. 

    I do wonder if I hadn't caught COVID if I would have allowed myself to recognise burnout for what it was. I was somewhat surprised when I was pulled into a Universal Credit Work Capability Assessment and they concluded that I should be placed in Limited Capability for Work and Related Activity - basically, I wasn't well and not fit for work or even preparing to work. It hit me really hard, but it forced me to face a truth. A counsellor I spoke to at the time likened it to me having raced down a road at 100mph, then finally hitting a brick wall. I survived, but now I can look back and see just how harmful things had been. It was like by going down that road, but not acknowledging my burnout and limitations, I had left a lot of wreckage and damage behind me. 

    I am sadly still struggling because I'm finding myself trying to rush back to 'normal'. I'm trying to work within my energy limits (energy accounting), but I find it frustrating that I can't do everything I feel I should do.

    My takeaway if I am being honest is to take burnout seriously. Don't keep putting off stopping, slowing down, resting. Otherwise you can end up with more (metaphorical) damage and wreckage on the road behind you that will take longer to clean up. 

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