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Not autistic diagnosis part 2

notthatmuchautistic

Thanks everyone for your words in my first post. I didn't  reply before because I wanted to have my job sort out and read the full report before say anything.

Workwise, they are going to remove my accommodations gradually, and even congratulated me for that because  " It's great that you're  not autistic and that open doors for you here!" I know, great...

About the report... I was so ready to say that doctors know more than me and that I understand that the line have to be in someplace and if I don't  make the cut means that I don't  have as much challenges than others (or as much as I think). But then I read the report. They mention like 3 times that I have superior studies and a career and that I have been able to do it in a language that it is not my first language. They also mention that I have long lasting friends (2 same  friends my whole life) my long lasting relationship, and that I "demostrate empathy in particular for my family and those in need". So, I guess that is what disqualified me? I don't get it, an autistic person cannot  have superior studies? Cannot have a small group of friends? (Don't  they think that if I only have 2 friends and they are the same since I was 5, maybe is because it is fxx hard make friends and those 2, as weird as myself,  just  have been there always, so they stay?). Cannot have a long term relationship? (Even though he is probably autistic/asperger)

They don't  say why I am not autistic, just that I don't  meet the criteria, but they added "demonstrate similarities to autistic  characteristics within  recriprocal social interaction and restricted, repetitive, and stereotyped  pattern of behaviour ".

So... that's  it, am I autistic? To be honest I don't  know, but at this point I am too tired to even trying for a second opinion. So, I guess I am taking this as  that I am not autistic, and my sensory issues are just some kind of quirk, my rigidity is that I am a control freak and my lack of social skills is the language/cultural barrier

Sorry for the rant and thank you to everyone that have take the time to read this.

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  • I watched and red about empathy (cognitive empathy) and compassion. Autistic people have difficulties with cognitive empathy - recognizing someone’s states and emotions intuitively and the ability to react to this at the moment. For example the ability to comfort someone when they are stressed etc. this is what autistic people have issues with, not necessarily with the ability to be compassionate. I heard that many people, also professionals and researchers confuse those two terms or lump them together. I’m not diagnosed, but from my experience I can say- if someone expects me to comfort them, I feel sick. I don’t know what to do or say or I even don’t get it that I should have comfort them, only later I hear why I didn’t do it. But if I see a homeless person asking me to buy them some food, I will do it even if it’s my last money. Autistic people can have long lasting friendships and relationships. I can’t say how right or wrong the report is, maybe the assessors decided that you are not struggling enough from having your autistic traits. I red an official on the page of my insurance company, that autistic people can be very successful in career life, they can be lecturers, scientists etc, have high post and earn good money and it still does not disqualify them from having “high functioning” autism. 
    My therapist told me I show quite strong autistic traits. He said he knows many autistic people and some of them do have friends family etc. but there are also professionals who say, that if you are married, it means you can’t be autistic. This is a broad topic. 

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  • I watched and red about empathy (cognitive empathy) and compassion. Autistic people have difficulties with cognitive empathy - recognizing someone’s states and emotions intuitively and the ability to react to this at the moment. For example the ability to comfort someone when they are stressed etc. this is what autistic people have issues with, not necessarily with the ability to be compassionate. I heard that many people, also professionals and researchers confuse those two terms or lump them together. I’m not diagnosed, but from my experience I can say- if someone expects me to comfort them, I feel sick. I don’t know what to do or say or I even don’t get it that I should have comfort them, only later I hear why I didn’t do it. But if I see a homeless person asking me to buy them some food, I will do it even if it’s my last money. Autistic people can have long lasting friendships and relationships. I can’t say how right or wrong the report is, maybe the assessors decided that you are not struggling enough from having your autistic traits. I red an official on the page of my insurance company, that autistic people can be very successful in career life, they can be lecturers, scientists etc, have high post and earn good money and it still does not disqualify them from having “high functioning” autism. 
    My therapist told me I show quite strong autistic traits. He said he knows many autistic people and some of them do have friends family etc. but there are also professionals who say, that if you are married, it means you can’t be autistic. This is a broad topic. 

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