Not autistic diagnosis part 2

Thanks everyone for your words in my first post. I didn't  reply before because I wanted to have my job sort out and read the full report before say anything.

Workwise, they are going to remove my accommodations gradually, and even congratulated me for that because  " It's great that you're  not autistic and that open doors for you here!" I know, great...

About the report... I was so ready to say that doctors know more than me and that I understand that the line have to be in someplace and if I don't  make the cut means that I don't  have as much challenges than others (or as much as I think). But then I read the report. They mention like 3 times that I have superior studies and a career and that I have been able to do it in a language that it is not my first language. They also mention that I have long lasting friends (2 same  friends my whole life) my long lasting relationship, and that I "demostrate empathy in particular for my family and those in need". So, I guess that is what disqualified me? I don't get it, an autistic person cannot  have superior studies? Cannot have a small group of friends? (Don't  they think that if I only have 2 friends and they are the same since I was 5, maybe is because it is fxx hard make friends and those 2, as weird as myself,  just  have been there always, so they stay?). Cannot have a long term relationship? (Even though he is probably autistic/asperger)

They don't  say why I am not autistic, just that I don't  meet the criteria, but they added "demonstrate similarities to autistic  characteristics within  recriprocal social interaction and restricted, repetitive, and stereotyped  pattern of behaviour ".

So... that's  it, am I autistic? To be honest I don't  know, but at this point I am too tired to even trying for a second opinion. So, I guess I am taking this as  that I am not autistic, and my sensory issues are just some kind of quirk, my rigidity is that I am a control freak and my lack of social skills is the language/cultural barrier

Sorry for the rant and thank you to everyone that have take the time to read this.

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  • Looks like I missed part one of this, but I can tell you that whether you are Autistic or not, your assessors don't know much about Autism and are clinging to some very out dated stereotypes of what Autism is.

    I have a university education, lived abroad in my youth living and working in a language not my own. I have good quality long term friendships and plenty of empathy.

    The empathy one really bugs me and is the sure fire indicator that these assessors have not updated their professional knowledge in a long time.

    These guys need to go read Milton on the double empathy problem!

    Take some time to process before you decide what to do next. If you had reasonable adjustments at work, then it means you needed them. I'm so sad that your colleagues think that not being Autistic is a reason to be congratulated.  "Congratulations" was the word I most appreciated hearing when I got my diagnosis.

    I'm so sorry you are going through this.

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  • Looks like I missed part one of this, but I can tell you that whether you are Autistic or not, your assessors don't know much about Autism and are clinging to some very out dated stereotypes of what Autism is.

    I have a university education, lived abroad in my youth living and working in a language not my own. I have good quality long term friendships and plenty of empathy.

    The empathy one really bugs me and is the sure fire indicator that these assessors have not updated their professional knowledge in a long time.

    These guys need to go read Milton on the double empathy problem!

    Take some time to process before you decide what to do next. If you had reasonable adjustments at work, then it means you needed them. I'm so sad that your colleagues think that not being Autistic is a reason to be congratulated.  "Congratulations" was the word I most appreciated hearing when I got my diagnosis.

    I'm so sorry you are going through this.

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