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Not autistic diagnosis part 2

notthatmuchautistic

Thanks everyone for your words in my first post. I didn't  reply before because I wanted to have my job sort out and read the full report before say anything.

Workwise, they are going to remove my accommodations gradually, and even congratulated me for that because  " It's great that you're  not autistic and that open doors for you here!" I know, great...

About the report... I was so ready to say that doctors know more than me and that I understand that the line have to be in someplace and if I don't  make the cut means that I don't  have as much challenges than others (or as much as I think). But then I read the report. They mention like 3 times that I have superior studies and a career and that I have been able to do it in a language that it is not my first language. They also mention that I have long lasting friends (2 same  friends my whole life) my long lasting relationship, and that I "demostrate empathy in particular for my family and those in need". So, I guess that is what disqualified me? I don't get it, an autistic person cannot  have superior studies? Cannot have a small group of friends? (Don't  they think that if I only have 2 friends and they are the same since I was 5, maybe is because it is fxx hard make friends and those 2, as weird as myself,  just  have been there always, so they stay?). Cannot have a long term relationship? (Even though he is probably autistic/asperger)

They don't  say why I am not autistic, just that I don't  meet the criteria, but they added "demonstrate similarities to autistic  characteristics within  recriprocal social interaction and restricted, repetitive, and stereotyped  pattern of behaviour ".

So... that's  it, am I autistic? To be honest I don't  know, but at this point I am too tired to even trying for a second opinion. So, I guess I am taking this as  that I am not autistic, and my sensory issues are just some kind of quirk, my rigidity is that I am a control freak and my lack of social skills is the language/cultural barrier

Sorry for the rant and thank you to everyone that have take the time to read this.

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  • I've just read your first post for context, I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm on a Subreddit where this seems to be quite common. It seems like there is a very stereotypical view of autistic traits by some assessors (based on what a lot of people on Reddit have said). Personally, I was diagnosed about ten years ago under old criteria, but I remember the psychologist mentioned that I gave good eye contact and articulated well. When I told her it was forced she recognised I was masking, common in late diagnosis (I was early thirties), so she adapted the assessment to subtly reveal my autistic traits. She was brilliant, but I do think there are so many people on the waiting list now that maybe it's become very rigid, with less room to adapt the assessment to suit the person. I'm sorry your employer is taking away accommodations that made work more comfortable for you, it's a shame they're making you have a piece of paper to get them; it should be about the person, not the diagnosis. It's awful they said it 'opens doors for you' clearly showing it wouldn't if you were diagnosed, they're admitting discrimination right there!

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  • I've just read your first post for context, I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm on a Subreddit where this seems to be quite common. It seems like there is a very stereotypical view of autistic traits by some assessors (based on what a lot of people on Reddit have said). Personally, I was diagnosed about ten years ago under old criteria, but I remember the psychologist mentioned that I gave good eye contact and articulated well. When I told her it was forced she recognised I was masking, common in late diagnosis (I was early thirties), so she adapted the assessment to subtly reveal my autistic traits. She was brilliant, but I do think there are so many people on the waiting list now that maybe it's become very rigid, with less room to adapt the assessment to suit the person. I'm sorry your employer is taking away accommodations that made work more comfortable for you, it's a shame they're making you have a piece of paper to get them; it should be about the person, not the diagnosis. It's awful they said it 'opens doors for you' clearly showing it wouldn't if you were diagnosed, they're admitting discrimination right there!

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