Not autistic diagnosis part 2

Thanks everyone for your words in my first post. I didn't  reply before because I wanted to have my job sort out and read the full report before say anything.

Workwise, they are going to remove my accommodations gradually, and even congratulated me for that because  " It's great that you're  not autistic and that open doors for you here!" I know, great...

About the report... I was so ready to say that doctors know more than me and that I understand that the line have to be in someplace and if I don't  make the cut means that I don't  have as much challenges than others (or as much as I think). But then I read the report. They mention like 3 times that I have superior studies and a career and that I have been able to do it in a language that it is not my first language. They also mention that I have long lasting friends (2 same  friends my whole life) my long lasting relationship, and that I "demostrate empathy in particular for my family and those in need". So, I guess that is what disqualified me? I don't get it, an autistic person cannot  have superior studies? Cannot have a small group of friends? (Don't  they think that if I only have 2 friends and they are the same since I was 5, maybe is because it is fxx hard make friends and those 2, as weird as myself,  just  have been there always, so they stay?). Cannot have a long term relationship? (Even though he is probably autistic/asperger)

They don't  say why I am not autistic, just that I don't  meet the criteria, but they added "demonstrate similarities to autistic  characteristics within  recriprocal social interaction and restricted, repetitive, and stereotyped  pattern of behaviour ".

So... that's  it, am I autistic? To be honest I don't  know, but at this point I am too tired to even trying for a second opinion. So, I guess I am taking this as  that I am not autistic, and my sensory issues are just some kind of quirk, my rigidity is that I am a control freak and my lack of social skills is the language/cultural barrier

Sorry for the rant and thank you to everyone that have take the time to read this.

Parents
  • I completely understand. I also have a long term partner but he's also probably on the spectrum, and I'm also very emotionally empathic. But people say I don't appear autistic and I never bothered with trying to get a diagnosis. A book that helped me was "Am I autistic?" by Lydia Andal.

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  • I completely understand. I also have a long term partner but he's also probably on the spectrum, and I'm also very emotionally empathic. But people say I don't appear autistic and I never bothered with trying to get a diagnosis. A book that helped me was "Am I autistic?" by Lydia Andal.

Children
  • Thanks for the recommendation. I just got a call from them and they are going to give me another appointment  to speak about the things that are no right in the report. I was to leave it, but there was a mistake that I could not tolerate (they say I was being investigated  at my job for highlited concern, when what I said was that the people that bullied me is being investigated), I couldn't  stand that an official document had that writed on. And now it's seem like I have the opportunity to clarify  all the mistakes ans misunderstanding that my report have on. 

    I don't  think that is going to change the result, but at least the things that they say will be true.

    I do regret to start  the process, so I get why you won't  pursuit an official assessment.