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Regression Social Skills?

KuriouslyAutistic44

Hello beautiful people! So I am curious what people have experience with regression in social skills. I feel like since my burnout, social skills have been in the workplace is "unfiltered" and I can not adapt to the normal social politeness or so -call professionalism as before. I have also realized that socializing with others is painful especially in groups or even some one on ones. Talking and communicating and knowing what to say or do...is challenging for me. Especially when there is an "unspoken expectation" to be 'polite, nice, filtered, or professional". I have been "using the professional mask in the workplace or to be socially acceptable and likeable and now that is out the window.  I am curious if anyone has experienced regression in socializing or maybe this is just what UNMASKING does....lol

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  • Hello beautiful person yourself  

    Yep - when the effort to fit in excedes the capacity to do so then there's an imbalance. 

    I wonder sometimes that for me personally I just get to the point where I just go "blow it - I can't be bothered to beat around the bush. This is how I see it."  Probably more OK if they raised the topic... but still there are limits...

    That's maybe the "regression" that you write about.

    hanging on to the idea that there is a topic and there are people communicating it and all these need to kind of mesh to do the social communication thing helps maybe

    The Zen koan about "what us the sound of one hand clapping?"...

    "How for this person is the best way to communicate?" helps

    Have done the "think about the other person thing" so much that have tended to overlook and not consider and take into account how I feel until too late...

    neurotypical people seem to have a a better handle on thus and do so without having to concentrate so hard on it it seems

    How do I need to communicate for the best way automatically - this for me seems to be the issue I have forgotten or not got the hang of - yep maybe since an early age.

    Yes "unmasking" Including communicating to oneself in a nuanced way about current emotions, what the goal is etc back to a really basic level is perhaps regression to that point before it all got dis regulated. 

    Trying these things in a "safe" situation whilst still respecting others  seems to help get beyond the burnout.

    Learning what factors contributed to the burnout can help with a strategy for what to do to get a more even flame going again maybe too.

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  • Hello beautiful person yourself  

    Yep - when the effort to fit in excedes the capacity to do so then there's an imbalance. 

    I wonder sometimes that for me personally I just get to the point where I just go "blow it - I can't be bothered to beat around the bush. This is how I see it."  Probably more OK if they raised the topic... but still there are limits...

    That's maybe the "regression" that you write about.

    hanging on to the idea that there is a topic and there are people communicating it and all these need to kind of mesh to do the social communication thing helps maybe

    The Zen koan about "what us the sound of one hand clapping?"...

    "How for this person is the best way to communicate?" helps

    Have done the "think about the other person thing" so much that have tended to overlook and not consider and take into account how I feel until too late...

    neurotypical people seem to have a a better handle on thus and do so without having to concentrate so hard on it it seems

    How do I need to communicate for the best way automatically - this for me seems to be the issue I have forgotten or not got the hang of - yep maybe since an early age.

    Yes "unmasking" Including communicating to oneself in a nuanced way about current emotions, what the goal is etc back to a really basic level is perhaps regression to that point before it all got dis regulated. 

    Trying these things in a "safe" situation whilst still respecting others  seems to help get beyond the burnout.

    Learning what factors contributed to the burnout can help with a strategy for what to do to get a more even flame going again maybe too.

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