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Struggling to accept autism

NAS89090

Hi everyone. Wondered if anyone had any advice? My boyfriend is struggling to accept the fact that he is autistic but loves me and my autistic, authentic self. Opening up about it caused him to have a meltdown. Does anyone have any tips surrounding how I can help him start to accept himself (to be honest, I am still on this journey myself)? I find it so hard to see him struggling with something I myself also struggle with and would be grateful for any advice.

Thank you in advance Slight smile

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  • NAS89090 said:
    I find it so hard to see him struggling with something I myself also struggle with and would be grateful for any advice.

    If he is reluctant to consider the label for himself then I would think about looking at the autistic traits he has that cause him the most issues, find which you have an overlap with and try to get him involved on "helping you" understand about it and formulate a plan.

    This will get him into reading about it because he wants to help you, understanding some of the solutions and when you are trying them suggest he tries them too to help you along and if it accidentally helps him then everyone is a winner.

    This way he gets to practice some techniques, will hopefully start to realise there is a benefit to it and over time he should be able to cope better wth life if he still doesn't want to consider himself as autistic.

    Stealth support by proxy I guess you could call it.

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  • NAS89090 said:
    I find it so hard to see him struggling with something I myself also struggle with and would be grateful for any advice.

    If he is reluctant to consider the label for himself then I would think about looking at the autistic traits he has that cause him the most issues, find which you have an overlap with and try to get him involved on "helping you" understand about it and formulate a plan.

    This will get him into reading about it because he wants to help you, understanding some of the solutions and when you are trying them suggest he tries them too to help you along and if it accidentally helps him then everyone is a winner.

    This way he gets to practice some techniques, will hopefully start to realise there is a benefit to it and over time he should be able to cope better wth life if he still doesn't want to consider himself as autistic.

    Stealth support by proxy I guess you could call it.

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