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Is this just me being weird?

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I've made a new online 'friend' that I met on bluesky. We are also 'friends' on Facebook. Whether online or IRL I'm very much a short  bursts of social interaction  punctuated by quite long breaks person when it comes  to engaging 1 to 1 with someone else. She's, to put it mildly,full on with her desire to interact with me. I'm struggling with that. Sometimes it's just too much effort to engage in spoken or written interaction 1 to 1 with another person.

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  • Have you said to her that you find the intensity a challenge and you may have delays in getting back to her is an online conversation?

    Sometimes it is good to set boundaries and manage expectations to safeguard ourselves from overload.

    It doesn't help IRL of course but it may save you at least some of the time.

    For the IRL situations I personally find it best to tell them I cannot match their energy and don't think I'm being "off" if I'm quiet - I just have a different energy level to them.

    It helps to tell them you love their energy but you can't hope to keep up but keep being themselves.

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  • Have you said to her that you find the intensity a challenge and you may have delays in getting back to her is an online conversation?

    Sometimes it is good to set boundaries and manage expectations to safeguard ourselves from overload.

    It doesn't help IRL of course but it may save you at least some of the time.

    For the IRL situations I personally find it best to tell them I cannot match their energy and don't think I'm being "off" if I'm quiet - I just have a different energy level to them.

    It helps to tell them you love their energy but you can't hope to keep up but keep being themselves.

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